i just read another post in a different group that i found really disturbing :(
it was in regards to birth rape and i cant believe the amount of woman who either dont believe that it exists or think that woman who have experienced it are being insensitive to "real" rape survivors by calling it that. i personally know a few woman who felt like they were raped/assaulted during their births and for them it was a very real, terrifying experience.
they felt secluded, they were yelled at, they were threatened, they were forcibly held down, they had hands or medical instruments inserted into them without their consent and in some cases are drugged and cut open and have their babies taken away from them.
how can an experience like that not be rape? rape isnt just a purely sexual assault, rape by definition is when another person takes something away from your forcibly....and in cases of birth rape what is taken away is choice and the ability to advocate for your own personal beliefs and your body.
as a rape survivor myself i dont beleive its my job to dictate how another woman feels about being assaulted. i do not take offense when i hear the word birth rape or try to compare it to my own experience because that is just wrong. it makes me sad that there are actually woman who think that birth rape is acceptable just because a medical doctor is the one doing the assaulting....i dont care how many letters you have after your name it does not give you the right to take away a women's choice!