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lets set this straight...

Posted by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:29 AM
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There is NO natural induction method. Once you try something to force baby out, that is UNnatural. Yes even EPO, Nipple Stim and sex in order to bring upon labor is UNnatural.**yes sex, if you are having sex to force baby out that is induction. if you are just having sex cuz you want to have sex with your partner and just happen to go into labor that is different, we are talking about you purposely doing something to cause labor to begin** 

If your body needs help to get baby out, that is UNnatural.

Babies need to stay as long as THEY want. NOT as long as you want. The fact is you will ONLY go into labor when the BABY has released a chemical/hormone that signals that the babies lungs have matured. If you force baby out before then you run the risk of your child being born too soon (yes even if you are 40wks there can be complications due to lung maturity,etc)

Also those last few weeks and days are crucial to brain development. Why deprive your baby of everything it needs so you can be comfortable or not go past a certain day. 

And seriously, i cannot tell you how many times ive seen this comment, in this group, this past week-
"baby can get too big"

Um wrong! you will never grow a baby too big for your body to birth UNLESS you have a pelvic deformity or previous trauma to your pelvis. It just isnt going to happen. Your body knows what to do, women have been giving birth for thousands of years, the whole "too big to deliver" crap has only been around for maybe 50 years.

LET YOUR BABY COME WHEN YOUR BABY IS READY!

Seriously ladies, this is a natural birth and parenting group. LEARN about what natural birth really is. Until then......


**apparently this post needs a disclaimer... this is not talking about preemies or true medically indicated inductions or csections are needed, this is the im full term and baby isnt here yet and im impatient and want to have baby now type of cases. those cases suck, been there done that, but that still doesnt mean you've had a natural birth. birth is only natural when you've done nothing to help it along. end of story.

**** do you really need to get into semantics here ladies? how about this... do nothing but let your body and your baby decide when baby is born. thats all you need to do. pretty freaking simple. that is natural, that is normal. anything else and its no longer natural.   

by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:29 AM
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ilostmy_keys
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:32 AM
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Natural is not limited to "no pit" or "no epidural" - I am noticing that thinking is popular here.
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VintageWife
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:33 AM
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I don't agree with the sex thing but oh well. I mean if someone has sex cause they want to and another person has sex cause they secretly hope they'll go into labor, you are saying one of them didn't have a natural birth?!?

And there have been people saying a baby can get too big? I haven't noticed that. Were they all in one thread? *Goes lurking*

lundaylove
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:37 AM
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having sex purely to go into labor to me makes an UNnatural birth. the mother has done something to put herself into labor, that is not natural. Now if you had sex because you wanted to have sex with your partner and just happened to go into labor thats fine because it was not with the intention of inducing, kwim?

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't agree with the sex thing but oh well. I mean if someone has sex cause they want to and another person has sex cause they secretly hope they'll go into labor, you are saying one of them didn't have a natural birth?!?

And there have been people saying a baby can get too big? I haven't noticed that. Were they all in one thread? *Goes lurking*


lundaylove
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:38 AM

sad isnt it?

Quoting ilostmy_keys:

Natural is not limited to "no pit" or "no epidural" - I am noticing that thinking is popular here.


Clubpenguin
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:39 AM
I agree. With my third my doctor was on the phone yelling at me for not showing up to be induced, I had no intention of being induced. But my dd had other ideas and I was in labor that say anyway.
ReiReally
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:40 AM
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You seem awfully passionate about this when in reality, you only have say over your own children's birth.
You think getting aggressive over this is going to sway anyone to want a natural birth?
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VintageWife
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:43 AM
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I know what you mean, but I think I still disagree. Of course I don't think sex really works as an induction method anyway. I guess I wonder at what point we'd say a woman 'did' have a natural birth. What if she walks down to the grocery and the thought pops into her mind 'hmmm...maybe this walk will get things started'. Has she then crossed into an 'unnatural' birth if she does go in labor that day?

I am totally with you if someone has pineapple, casteroil, sex, rrl, etc all in the same day to get it started. That was an induction of sorts for sure. But I feel having sex or wanting labor vibes while on your walk, doesn't change it from a natural birth. It's doing everything all at once in the hopes of forcing things that changes it. 

Quoting lundaylove

having sex purely to go into labor to me makes an UNnatural birth. the mother has done something to put herself into labor, that is not natural. Now if you had sex because you wanted to have sex with your partner and just happened to go into labor thats fine because it was not with the intention of inducing, kwim?

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't agree with the sex thing but oh well. I mean if someone has sex cause they want to and another person has sex cause they secretly hope they'll go into labor, you are saying one of them didn't have a natural birth?!?

And there have been people saying a baby can get too big? I haven't noticed that. Were they all in one thread? *Goes lurking*


 

lundaylove
by on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:43 AM
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one, im not aggressive and two, in a natural birth group one would think i wouldnt need to sway another...

Quoting ReiReally:


You seem awfully passionate about this when in reality, you only have say over your own children's birth.
You think getting aggressive over this is going to sway anyone to want a natural birth?


justone_jen
by Bronze Member on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:46 AM
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I agree, and would say the same about nipple stimulation.

I too have missed the 'baby too big' comments. What's irritating to me is that every woman I know who induced due to size had an average sized baby. They end up with a section, and the doctor is a hero for saving mom and baby. In all reality, if the doctor would've let the baby come when ready, no saving would've been necessary.


Quoting VintageWife:

I don't agree with the sex thing but oh well. I mean if someone has sex cause they want to and another person has sex cause they secretly hope they'll go into labor, you are saying one of them didn't have a natural birth?!?


And there have been people saying a baby can get too big? I haven't noticed that. Were they all in one thread? *Goes lurking*

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Sarah725
by Group Mod - Sarah on Apr. 23, 2012 at 8:51 AM

 Although I do think it is ok to have sex for the purpose of the semen softening the cervix.

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