Birthplan yay or nay? (random thoughts that may come out jumbled)
Hello ladies! I find myself getting very excited about my upcoming labor.
I didnt have a birthplan made for either of my previous labors. They didnt go horrible, I feel like I was listened to for the things I say I didnt want. So I never felt the need to after my 1st.
well this time around I plan to go 100% natural (to ME, that means no pitocin, no pain meds, no IV fluids unless I can not keep myself hydrated, and intermittent fetal monitoring. All these wishes seem to not be a problem with the MW team I am using nor the hospital they use. for recovery, I just ask that baby stay with a parent at all times. Always room sharing, someone present for bathing, bloodwork, vaccines, exam, circumcision (no bashing, its our choice), etc. This was also never a problem with my previous hospital, so I feel like its not a big issue for most.
I dont want an episiotomy (again, never been an issue and I really dont think it will be with my MW), and I prefer delayed cord clamping this time, still am going to talk to MW about it.
I hear from friends that have birthed at this hospital, that everyone is required (not 100% sure on the term REQUIRED) to submit their birthplan to their care provider before delivery day and they send it to the hospital, so that when you get there after pre registering, the nurse staff all have it and everyone is on the same page.
So should I start thinking about making one? My MW hasnt said anything yet (I am still early). It kind of intimidates me to have to put all my wishes in writing. I feel like I will be tied down with one. I am a go with the flow kind of person. My view on a detailed birthplan is that I may go in their with a prejudgement on me and they (nurse staff) give me a hard time. I am a soft spoken yet FIRM person, I normally do not have an issue with people not respecting me. They know I am not kidding. I was always very aware of my surroundings and caught that they were about to hook up pitocin with my 2nd wihtout asking me. I asked them waht it was and they answered. I said I didnt want it. They said I wasnt progressing quick enough. I repeated I did not want it very sternly but not rude and that if they had a problem, they could bring my Dr in, but until then, they could take it back out of the room. I was not aware she was going to break my water until sghe did it with DS1 and I was not happy and made it clear she was to ALWAYS ask before doing anything from there on out.
so if I already know what I want going in, and they do not, they will learn as they go and not have a pre judgement against me and make it difficult from the get go. Does that make any sense? lol
If I should make one; I want to make sure I hit all the necessary topics:
fetal monitor management
water breaking (dont want it, but if it MAY help, TALK to me first, I had my water broken without my prior consent with DS1)
pushing (instruments that may be used, positions)
immediately after birth (ointment in eyes, cord clamping, cord cutting, bonding with mom, when to weigh)
and recovery (everything I mentioned above)
Am I missing anything important?