How do I teach him or do I just accept it?

[EthansMomma2010]

 I really wanted to be potty training now. I know a lot of moms say to just wait until they're ready, but I just don't feel like that's healthy. Diapers just aren't as sanitary imo. but my DS is severely speech delayed. he is 21 months been in speech therapy for 3 months and has just learned to say  no, eww, and a few animal sounds. he can sign more and all done and want. should i just give up? I feel awful because this is something i felt so strongly about, but i don't want to damage him for life. also we had to switch to sposies because while is only 28 lbs its all in his butt and thighs so he doesnt fit like 90% of his dipes and they aren't holding his pee anyway. i have tried naked time, underwear, pullups. nothing is working. he has also watched elmo's potty time dvd over and over and watched DH and me go for months now. nothing. he says eww at diaper changes and sometimes when he feels he has peed. but its not seeming to help.

[RochelleFS]

Dd has autism and didn't train until age 4. Not for lack of trying, she just wasn't ready and couldn't figure it out. She has sensory processing disorder and doesn't feel when she has to go. She just has reduced sensation. It took a while but she got there. Gl!

[outstandingLove]

Buy him his own little potty chair. Show it to him, and if he sits on it get excited and encouraage. ... but don't push the issue. if he starts to use it on his own set up a rewards system that he can understand (please try to avoid using food as a reward) and make sure you give him insane amounts of encouragment and support each and EVERY time he uses the potty.

[TrentsMom84]

I think your best bet would be looking into elimination communication if you really want to avoid diapers.  IMO almost no kids are ready to recognize their own signals and respond at his age and even less so if they have developmental delays.

[h_minkus]

It's really uncommon for kids to potty train that young, especially with developmental delays. If I were you, I'd try not to stress too much about it.

[melindabelcher]

My oldest didn't potty train until 2, regressed and then-3 my middle child is just now potty training and shes 2.5. in my experience it can't be pushed on them. Me and hubby would try to encourage middle child to use the potty and even though she knew how to and knew even she was going to pee she just didn't want to and literally monday she woke up and has only had an accident a couple times all week. 21 months imo is to young to expect to use the potty, if he does great if not thats fine to.

[catholicmamamia]

Agreed, completely! 

Quoting h_minkus: It's really uncommon for kids to potty train that young, especially with developmental delays. If I were you, I'd try not to stress too much about it.

 

[mostlymaydays]

Dd, my 4th holds our potty training record at 30 months. My boys were both 39 months (which is spot on the national average for boys, and they were cloth diapered) and then the dd that followed them was 34 months. I tried a handful of times leading up to those ages, but when they were ready, they left diapers behind with the rarest of accidents. By the time they were potty trained, they could get their clothes off and back on, get themselves on the toilet and wipe after pee. I'm not a fan of potty trips twice an hour and I'd rather change 100 poopy diapers than 1 pair of poopy underpants, so for me, potty training earlier than we did would have been a major no-go.

[mostlymaydays]

My friends son has minor cognitive delays and apraxia of speech and has never gone on the potty yet and he'll be 5 in August.

[hapababies]

There are two different ways that you could incorporate potty training into his and your day.
One- take him to his potty every time you go to the bathroom. While your using the toilet, tell him what you are doing "mama is going pee" (or whatever words you'll use for functions. The con to this is you don't get privacy and adults don't use the bathroom as often as kids. The pro is that he will start to understand that going into the bathroom is part of life.
Two- make going to the potty part of the daily routine- wake up,go potty, eat breakfast, go potty, playtime, go potty, eat lunch, go potty, nap, go potty, eat snack, to potty, etc.... Pros- eventually he will go pee or poo in the potty just by pure luck or with a bit of understanding. Cons- time consuming and you have to have a good routine in place.
I worked with kids who had trouble with potty training and these were methods that we either used or helped parents with. Btw- we used peers who were potty trained to help with the first method.
Hope this was helpful :)

[blg5484]

SS is 4 and just got good at it in the last few months and he is not delayed in any way his mom started to train him before he was really ready just before he turned 2 and it became a night mare I DO NOT suggest starting if LO isnt ready!!!!!!!!

My DD is 23 months I got her a potty seat just after she turned 1 so she would get used to seeing it and she would sit on it with her clothes on and a few months ago she was showing signs of readiness so I started to sit her on her potty and let her pee when she woke up  in the morning and from naps and any other time she wanted but in the last month she hasnt wanted to (we have all teh potty with elmo abby stuff too) so I have backed off and we will try again in a few weeks or so

take your time and dont push it will just lead to grrr down the raod