I hate when the topic of birth comes up among mainstream friends. Ugh.
I guess it's pretty well known that I had a cesarean with my first baby and yesterday while taking my daughter to the playground, the subject came up among the other mothers.
And when I was explaining that the cesarean happened because the environment was not conducive due to the stress and the pressure of the doctor and staff, I was interrupted with "Pshaaaw, what stress?! There's no stress in the hospital! They make everything comfortable for you."
Yeah, okay. These people don't have any clue about oxytocin vs. adrenaline or the stress of being placed on the clock because your water broke. Literally the first thing that was said to me the minute I walked into the labor/birthing room was, "You have 12 hours to get that baby out or you'll have a cesarean." Really? THAT'S not stressful? Especially when the ONLY thing you wanted was a non-interventive natural birth?
And I talked about how my doctor was doing things to me when I told her NO and asked her to stop...and she continued anyway (both vaginal exam and administering pitocin).
Being pitted against your will while screaming no, don't do it...and having the doctor nod to the nurse to do it anyway doesn't create sress??
Then they asked me who my doctor was and when I told them, 2/3 of them said, "OH! She's my doctor, too! She's FANTASTIC! What a WONDERFUL doctor. She's the best doctor in the whole city" etc. etc. etc.
Then they wanted to know which hospital I had been at...and so suddenly the villain became the *hospital* not the doctor, and they advised me not to go back to the same hospital this time. Ugh.
No, I'm NOT planning to go back to that hospital again. What I didn't tell them was that I'm not planning to go back to ANY hospital. I hate that I have to keep my homebirth plans hush-hush, but people are so opinionated.
Uninformed opinionated is the worst kind of opinionated. :(