I am due Sept 14, and my mom and Grandma are planning to stagger visits to try and be here to help. I have 2 other kids, and abolutely nobody here to take care of them when I go to the hospital to have the baby.
That said, I come from a long line of control freaks, and mom and Gma are piling the pressure on to schedule the birth. It's not like anything has changed since my last birth. They know I am against interventions in birth. they have heard all of my reasons. But now that they are coming for this one, they feel that making sure they each get to see her before they leave and knowing they can know for sure what dates to come is more important than my reasons for natural birth. I very much want them to see the baby and I do need them here when it happens, but I will not be scheduling the birth. I wish they could understand that this has nothing to do with being ungrateful or disrespectful or anything like that. I am letting them know well in advance. They do not HAVE to come. I do need the help, but ultimately its their choice, and I have told them that I understand if they can't come. They offered and continue to insist they wouldn't dream of not being here. I am so tired of butting heads over this. I am not going to change my mind, but I could do without the stress of their constant guilt trips and pushing.
I hate when people want births scheduled around their schedules and they aren't even the parents!!!
Is it possible...?
- bethiesmama
on May. 30, 2012 at 10:07 PM