I knew this would happen. We are on vacation. We are visiting lots of in-laws who haven't met my youngest two kids yet (28 mos & 8 mos). Everyone wants to hold my youngest but she HATES other people holding her or touching her. She will smile at people from the Boba when hubby or I wear her but she will not let anyone else hold her. Even my mom who she sees the most. She screams her head off and won't stop. So, I really don't like stressing her out by even trying. I have tried giving her to family members but as soon as she cries I take her back.
My SIL keeps telling me it's not normal and she thinks she's autistic too. She gave me this big lecture about how I'm enabling her and I need to break this habit or bondage now. I was like how is it a habit?? I explained to her that even if she is autistic she is still an infant who doesn't understand object permanence yet. She still needs her emotional needs met and probably more so because she's very sensitive or scared of a lot of things. I'm in no rush to get her over her fear of strangers. I think it's silly how people think you need to "break this habit NOW" or they will NEVER be independent. Please! I will expose her to other people slowly and help her adjust to different things slowly.
I'm so tired of hearing this about her! I met my sons needs the same as I meet hers and he isn't scared of people. So, obviously my parenting isn't doing it! Basically, I told her I don't agree and that's that. I just get annoyed. I guess I've been spoiled so far. I'm never around in laws or other family who I have to defend my parenting ways with lol.
on Jun. 20, 2012 at 12:23 AM