Hypnobabies when things are going "wrong"?

[heatherh610]

 

Hi ladies...not sure who to ask this question, so I thought this group would be the best place since it seems a few of you ladies have used this method lately! 

I have been deiligently doing my hypnobabies home study since 18w (I am currently 30w 6d with my 4th child...this will be my 2nd natural birth but I used the Bradley method with my last). All of my other kiddos were born beyond 40w with no preterm labor scares.  This time, of course is different.  Last night I was at the hospital for the 2nd time with contractions.  The first time was at 19w, and I was diagnosed with an "overgrowth of bacteria and yeast" which was causing the irritation of my cervix and causing the contractions.  Both were treated and all was good.Cervix was still thick, and no dilation was happening.  

Last night's visit was a mystery though...I tested neg for bacteria infections, yeast infections, and UTIs.  Placenta looks good and baby looks perfect although "measuring large" (yeah yeah, I make big babies...doc has no concern there). I was at home all day, drank my normal 96oz of water plus some G2 so, I was hydrated  Cervix was thinning, but still no dilation (thank goodness...).   I was vomiting though...and docs decided in the end that it was all most likely (although not clear) caused by a GI infection or virus that caused my entire abdomen to be irritated.

So, what is the issue?  I had trouble dealing with last night.  More than full blown labor with other babies.  I have been thinking about why though...I really struggled with thinking of these contractions as pressure waves. They were coming every 2min 45sec and lasting a minute. It was obviously too soon for this all to be happening (the intern and nurses who saw me early in the evening were sure that my babe was coming last night and were shocked that I was not dilated at all for the intensity of the contractions...but then I typically don't dilate until the very last moment and then go super fast which my OB explained to them when they called him in).  I tried to listen to some of my tracks, but all talk about having a relaxing birth...and I was fighting that last night with all I had.  I felt myself tensing up with everything I had for every contraction I had (yes, I am referring to them as contractions because pressure waves are for birthing, and again, this was far too soon...).  I WAS scared, and I didn't want to relax and let my body take over birthing my babe so soon. I was treated with zofran, fluids for good measure, and two injections of terbutaline.  The contractions became more spaced out at that point and definitely lessened in intensity.  In the moment, I found myself completely frustrated.  Since Hypnobabies only talks about a happy, healthy and normal pregnancy I was at a loss as to how to try to relax in these moments.  Everything I tried to listen to talked about my wonderful birthing time...and I couldn't go there. 

I don't know if any of this makes sense at this point...but I guess I am wondering if I am alone in this, or what has worked for other people in these instances.  I used a number of my Bradley techniques last night to get through...but I am wondering if I am missing something here in the Hypnobabies course that could have been of help? 

[JoJoBean8]

I haven't used hypno so here's a bump

[hriabywx4]

I have not used hyponobabies per say, I used some of the ideas and some other things too! I can not imagine how you were feeling! But IMO it probably had to do with the fact that having a baby that early is a very scary, nerve racking thing to be going through where having a full term baby ( fewer worries ) is a more normal, less fearful situation! I don't think you should doubt yourself! I hope that made sense! I'm on mobile so.... I hope LO continues to stay put until the time is right and that all goes smoothly!

[TrentsMom84]

My friend used Hypnobabies for her homebirth.  She worked through 14 hours of labor and then when her son was descending he was in a really bad position and was hitting her spine.  The midwife tried many different techniques to get him to change position, including manually reaching up and turning his body but he always went back to the same position.  She said that once she started getting pain from him hitting her spine she asked her midwife if it was normal to have that feeling and the midwife told her no it wasn't.  At that point she was still able to deal with pain (obviously having someone with their arm inside you with no pain meds would be tough) but it wasn't the same once she knew that things weren't going right.  I would guess that is the same thing that happened with you-it's hard to allow your body to fully relax and embrace the waves when you don't baby to descend.