See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
This is getting old and I just want to vent. I am due Sept. 14. My mom is coming out Sept 5th through the 20th. Then My Grandma will come from the 19-29th. It's a long time to have house guests, but they are coming to help with my 2 other kids whom I have nobody else to watch when I give birth as well as taking them to their activities which are almost everyday. So it will be nice to have help.
Anyway, my mom usually respects that I do things the more natural way, and my Grandma tries to push the more medical approach as well as "easier" ways to do things on me. (she does not understand why on earth I choose cloth when disposables are so great! etc. lol) But I can deal with the differences of opinion. I still do things my own way.
My issue right now is that everyone thinks they have a say in when I have this baby all of the sudden! My mom is pushing me to consider induction if I haven't had her within 3 days before she is to leave. And my Grandma thinks everything is an emergency and if already frantic that I am not seeing a regular OB and using every drug and intervention available. She thinks if I go past my due date, the baby will die, so she expects this baby to be here before she arrives on the 19th. Then my midwife who I switched to halfway because I realized my last midwife was more of a medwife, just told me she will be out of town sept. 8-12. She is in the same practice as my former medwife as well as one other midwife that I will be meeting at my next appt. just in case. My midwife said to start telling myself that this baby is going to come before she goes out of town and visualize it into reality. My husband works weekdays 7-4 and we cant afford for him to miss work unless we have to. He goes to school M-Th from 5-1130 pm and the hours are mandated by the FAA so if he misses one night they have rigorous rules about how he can make up the time. If it is in the last week of a course, he has to repeat the entire thing thus pushing back his grad date. So he is requesting I focus on a weekend birth!
Good grief people! Don't worry, I am NOT entertaining the thought of induction or even doing anything wild beyond the normal stuff like walking, drinking tea, mediatating, etc. This baby gets the final say on her birth. Nevertheless, I am just starting to get angry about everyone trying to control it! My midwife isnt really pushy. But of course knowing she will be away makes me feel a little nervous. I dont want to end up with my former medwife by default. I switched for a reason. I am relaxed about waiting for her to come when she comes and letting nature take its course. I feel bad if my mom misses it, but this is my 3rd baby and she knows how I do things, I have been completely honest about my plans, and she chose her own visit dates, so I dont feel guilty.
Sorry this is soooooo long! I just need to vent, and so far the few people I thought I could vent to, think I am such a meanie for not accomodating everyone. Ugh! Thanks for listening.