Do you have...

[Baby4us09]

 guardians for your little ones in the event of an unlikely demise? 

I have my mother at this time but  she is mid 50's. I don't think she is capable at this this time to care for an Autistic 11 Yo, 9 YO and a toddler. She won't be able to keep up.  She won't raise them the way I am raising them and it will just turn out ugly for them. Then again I don't have close friends anymore, the friends I do have I wouldn't trust to take care of my dogs and so I am just at a loss.

My views on parenting have drastically changed in the last year so that makes a lot of people turn heads. Well at least my mother.  So many put so much faith in the medical community, I do not, and it just makes me sad. If we don't have anyone listed, would they go to my sister? She is not a very good candidate for my children. She took her 3 YO out of a car seat maybe even at two.  They do as they please when they please and are disrespectful. Well one of three is. the middle is good. The oldest is the one that takes care of them and if he goes to correct the youngest one he gets in trouble. I feel for him. He basically raises those kids but he can't discipline them. Um hello! The youngest we see landing in Juvie soon. Hes that bad.

[schultzal]

My husband and I have talked about this, and the only option I see is his sister, who already has 3 children. I live in Australia (he's Australian) and all of my family is in the US. I can't imagine my child losing his/her parents, and then being uprooted and forced to move halfway around the world to live with family he or she hardly knows. I wish my child would have the opportunity to get to know my family better, but the distance will make it difficult.

[TrentsMom84]

We need to get this in writing because we've talked about it.  My SIL would gladly take them (our oldest kids are 6 weeks apart and she does daycare from her home and loves kids) but she is a whack job and has crazy ideas about parenting (she put her 15 month old in time out at a restaurant for dropping food on the floor).  She also lives far away from where we are now and from other family members.  We both agreed that custody wise my mother would be the best bet and his mom lives close by so she could help out a lot.  My mom has the most flexible work schedule and closest parenting ideals. 

[littlelambe2]

We have talked of this but haven't come to any conclusions :/

[peaches_04]

My sister

[BridgetMc]

It's been discussed but not really decided... My parents are probably our best candidates. Their still fairly young, my mom is only 47 & dad will be 50 this year. My brother has a son the same age as my oldest but he is a single dad so I couldn't throw two girls at him. My sister in law has 3 who are a handful already and my two brothers in law are single men so they are a no-go. My in-laws are great people but my husband was their later in life baby so as they are approaching 70, it wouldnt be right to have them raise our girls I can't ever see myself trusting anyone but family. One thing I do know is that if we were to go my parents would keep my kids involved with my husbands family because they all get along so well. It would probably end up being a group effort.

[EthansMomma2010]

we have to put it in writing. He has godparents and my parents will take him of something happens before he is 5. But we need to get it all written out and I keep bugging dh but he doesnt do it!!!

[Mrs.Salz]

We do. It was really hard to think about and ask relatives about but we did it and wrote up a lot of our preferences for how he should be raised, etc.

No one we know will parent him exactly the way we want, but we figure it's far better than ending up in foster care.

[rena_goldmoon]

We were just talking about this yesterday. We honestly have no family that are good candidates. My mother would be but she is approaching 60, has health problems, and is still with my Dad who was emotionally and somewhat physically abusive to me and my siblings. Hes mellowed out a bit but I am not willing to risk that with my kids. My husbands parents never disciplined him at all and have used the phrase "Well I ate/did it growing up and I turned out just fine." (They both have cancer.) None of our siblings are stable financially or relationship wise. We are kind of at a loss.

[princess_peach]

We have both agreed that we want his sister to take them. She is the only one of our siblings that is married right now and is the most stable. We talked to her and they are happy to take them if the need ever arose. We don't have it in writing yet though. I know she wouldnt parent them the way I do, but no one will.

[JMmama]

Officially, my sister and her husband. However, when that was put in writing, I had 2 kids and she had zero. Now I have 4 and she has 2 so I'm not real sure if she is still up for it.