Healing after natural childbirth- how long is too long?
A little backstory- after 4 hrs of labor and 2 min of pushing, I had a beautiful 10 lb 2 oz baby girl. I tore my perineum and up into my birth canal, as well as a diagonal tear upwards toward my left hip. I was stitched up on the bed, no stirrups or anything, with about 6 stitches on the lower tear and one on the diagonal tear. Three days later, the diagonal repair started to hurt, but I was hoping it was normal and would go away. By day five it was unbearable, so I called the birthing center and they had me come in. They checked me out in the exam chair and what had looked like a small tear that required one stitch was actually about an inch and a half long tear requiring six stitches. Stitches right after giving birth hurt. Stitches five days after that hurt even worse!! It was miserable!
At our three week visit I had some granulation tissue cauterized with silver nitrate- also no fun! Now, a week later, things are feeling better but not normal. I can't sit on the edge of the couch, it's uncomfortable to wipe sometimes, and it hurts to cough, sneeze and laugh. When I lay on my side my whole groin hurts like a mug. Also, when I feel my perineum and surrounding tissue it feels really hard.
Is this all normal? I'm sure practically shot-putting a 10 pounder is going to do some damage, but is this anything I should worry about?