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upset at my 27 week apt..

Posted by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 8:40 PM
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so my pregnancy is considered high risk because we had a stillbirth at 26weeks for unknown causes and because I have hyperememsis(HG), even though I seem to be doing better because of my history the doc today informed me that I will have to be induced at 39 weeks.. I told her under no circumstance do I want to do that.. but Im now wondering what should I do? keep seeing her because this is one of only two offices in my city that works with highrisk pregnancies and has a specialist.. the other office has a specialist as well but that one isnt in office hes an hour and a half away and thats why I choose this office in the beginning ... my question to you ladies is what would you do in my shoes? part of me says stay and consider it although im against it and the other side says stay here until about 38 weeks and then switch offices... does that make any sense..

thanks 

Qualyn

by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 8:40 PM
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yikesitsmindy
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 9:26 PM
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I know popular opinion is to say f-u to a doctor and do whatever you want, but I am of the opinion that doctors go to school for 12 years for a reason. They may not always make decisions that we love, but they are proposing options with more knowledge and experience than google can provide. I just had a c section at 41 weeks for a failed induction. I was induced for low fluid. I wanted a totally natural water birth so this was totally unexpected for me. I made a post here asking for advice and lots of people told me not to induce and low fluid is bs, but guess what, my fluid really was low and I am glad I listened to my midwife and did the right thing for my baby.
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VintageWife
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:03 PM
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I don't understand why in the world she'd insist on an induction.

Duquesne
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:19 PM
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I'll preface this by saying I've suggested a very late term loss, so I'm not insensitive to the fears. I'm sorry for your loss.

If induction is her suggestion based solely on the prior stillbirth, it's not based on current research, so I'd refuse induction. Studies show more still births occur between 36-39 weeks than between 40-42 weeks. Mind you, these numbers are still super low. So it is MY opinion that a doc should offer closer supervision before scheduling an induction should that be what you want. You shouldn't feel pressured into something you don't want based solely on fear. And I truly believe medical induction should be reserved for truly needed medical reasonings.

But I understand worry. I've been there and it's hard not to let it overcome you. I'm 28 weeks along and have had one already since my loss. It never really leaves the back of your mind.
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Honeybunches26
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:45 PM

she said because of the history of stillbirth.. but when I asked her does that make it neccessary she said its still too early to make a decision either way, but that it most likely will be whats done.. and not to worry about it now.. which really didnt reassure me at all! 

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't understand why in the world she'd insist on an induction.


Honeybunches26
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:49 PM

Im also sorry for your loss.. thats what I said to her also... I asked does the last experience affect this time? she said there are many factors to consider and that its way to early to make any final decisions but I just stated I want to avoid that at all cost... unless medically neccessary and she said with my case at her office they routinely do it at 39 weeks and I really really dont like it.. thank you for sharing your experience lovely... good luck with this pregnancy.. what are you having? A girl for us

Quoting Duquesne:

I'll preface this by saying I've suggested a very late term loss, so I'm not insensitive to the fears. I'm sorry for your loss.

If induction is her suggestion based solely on the prior stillbirth, it's not based on current research, so I'd refuse induction. Studies show more still births occur between 36-39 weeks than between 40-42 weeks. Mind you, these numbers are still super low. So it is MY opinion that a doc should offer closer supervision before scheduling an induction should that be what you want. You shouldn't feel pressured into something you don't want based solely on fear. And I truly believe medical induction should be reserved for truly needed medical reasonings.

But I understand worry. I've been there and it's hard not to let it overcome you. I'm 28 weeks along and have had one already since my loss. It never really leaves the back of your mind.


Honeybunches26
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:52 PM

thats what worrys me I dont want a C-section and all the reading Ive done says induction leads to a Csection more than natural.. if there was something wrong I wouldnt fight anything of course if it saves the baby but in this case I dont understand what the dangers of natural birth pose.. and she didnt give any answer other than we prefer to do it when women have your past loss and anything can happen before then and you could have complications, Idk she just seemed really opposed to natural at all. Im glad your babys okay.. and if I had your issue I would have done the same! 

Quoting yikesitsmindy:

I know popular opinion is to say f-u to a doctor and do whatever you want, but I am of the opinion that doctors go to school for 12 years for a reason. They may not always make decisions that we love, but they are proposing options with more knowledge and experience than google can provide. I just had a c section at 41 weeks for a failed induction. I was induced for low fluid. I wanted a totally natural water birth so this was totally unexpected for me. I made a post here asking for advice and lots of people told me not to induce and low fluid is bs, but guess what, my fluid really was low and I am glad I listened to my midwife and did the right thing for my baby.


VintageWife
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:52 PM
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How very odd.  I wouldn't understand what she was trying to say, honestly. I don't understand how a 20-something wk loss would have to do with a 30-something week birth unless they knew why it happened. I guess I'd be asking a lot more questions before agreeing to anything.

BTW, I'm very sorry for your loss :(

Quoting Honeybunches26:

she said because of the history of stillbirth.. but when I asked her does that make it neccessary she said its still too early to make a decision either way, but that it most likely will be whats done.. and not to worry about it now.. which really didnt reassure me at all! 

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't understand why in the world she'd insist on an induction.

 

 

Honeybunches26
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:57 PM

thats what I asked.. she said we can revisit our options as we get further along.. so I tried to let it go but it did upset me.. and she made it sound like my loss was more concerning because they had no cause of death, and like that changed the situation? which before her acting that way I have never heard... I havent agreed so far I told her Im opposed and sure we can revisit the subject but unless we were in danger I see no reason for it.. and she said okay we can try natural possibly but we have to wait and that she had planned to induce me from the start based on the history of stillbirth.. and thanks.. I imagine this is just common practice.. but if there is a medical reason I dont mind considering it but if not I may need to find a new doctor which sucks with my high risk nature! 

Quoting VintageWife:

How very odd.  I wouldn't understand what she was trying to say, honestly. I don't understand how a 20-something wk loss would have to do with a 30-something week birth unless they knew why it happened. I guess I'd be asking a lot more questions before agreeing to anything.

BTW, I'm very sorry for your loss :(

Quoting Honeybunches26:

she said because of the history of stillbirth.. but when I asked her does that make it neccessary she said its still too early to make a decision either way, but that it most likely will be whats done.. and not to worry about it now.. which really didnt reassure me at all! 

Quoting VintageWife:

I don't understand why in the world she'd insist on an induction.


 


peaches_04
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 10:59 PM
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Maybe try compromising and ask if you can have a bpp done if its 8/8 continue the pregnancy
Thats how im still pregnant
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KKmommy3
by on Sep. 7, 2012 at 11:01 PM

I would go with the what the doctor says.  You may be doing so well by that time that they decide to wait.  Or you may spontaniously go into labor at that point anyway?  who knows,  But I would not want to risk medical problems to you or your baby by refusing to do what your doctor recomends.   It is really not all that bad, I was induced with my first baby, and although it took 20 hours, and the epidural did not work, everything turned out great! I went on to have 2 more kids.  so it must not have been all that terrible. Oh, and I never had a c-section either.

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