I don't want to...but my husband does...

[nicole4ray]

I am currently 25 weeks pregnant with my 3rd child, our first boy. So for the first time ever I'm having to think of circumcision. I always figured we would do it, I never gave it much thought. But now that I have this little boy growing inside of me, the thought of putting him through that pain just breaks my heart. I no longer want to circumcise him. But my husband is pretty set on having it done. I usually research things, and my husband lets me choose because he knows that I know what's best. But there's really no research I can provide on this one to prove my side or his side. I don't know what to do. I can't bear the thought of doing that to my little boy. What should I do? Any articles that would help maybe?

[savyjoel]

If you go to the drmomma.org site and type in the search box "forced retraction" you will find several articles.  Also nocirc.org has info on that as well.  It's sad that friends and family would react so negative.  Please know that you are not alone and there are so many parents leaving their sons natural.  The more that people open their minds and realize that we have been brainwashed for so long the more that it will become strange to cut a baby.  Imagine that? 

Quoting nicole4ray:

I'm having trouble finding anything about forced retraction. Do you have any direct links to this? I will go crazy on anybody who tries to force me to circumcise my son, so I want this information.

[nicole4ray]

Thank you everyone for being so supportive. Turns out I never had anything to worry about husband is completely with me on this. It's my sister who is giving me grief about it. I will still be checking out all of these links to continue educating myself and others.

[peaches_04]

Make a fake fb profile and friend request your dh with it then plaster it daily with intactavist photos, videos ect
worked for me:)

[Sarah725]

 ask him why he feels that way, then you will no where to concentrate your facts for argument sake.

[Gingerella]

I'm glad your dh agreed with no fight. I was worried my (circ'd) dh would put up a fight so beforehand I got all these sites and info compiled. I came up with a retort for every excuse. I waited til he was in a really good mood and brought it up. I barely got started on my well rehearsed talk when he was like "Ok. I trust you.". End of discussion. I love that our son is whole and my dh is really (I think) learning what was taken from him. I have never once regretted leaving him whole and perfect, the way he was born.

[Nicolle_09]

join the Raising Intact Sons group here on cm, they have a ton of info and link on caring for an intact boy. They also have an Intact Care Agreement form that you can have your babies caregiver (medical or personal) sign and hold them accountable

Quoting nicole4ray:

Thank you everyone for being so supportive. Turns out I never had anything to worry about husband is completely with me on this. It's my sister who is giving me grief about it. I will still be checking out all of these links to continue educating myself and others.