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How long after birth did it take? *update*

Posted by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:59 PM
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How long did it take you to start enjoying sex again after birth? My first I was so sore for about 3 months and it started feeling better and sex didn't sound like the worst idea ever! With my second I'm at month 6 and it stil can hurt! entering sux (honestly feels like birthing all over again) and apparently my bladder is sagging a bit so when he hits that i'm just done. :( It's really hard. Im so happy I had natural births but then i hear women who had csections are 'so glad they are still functioning' it just makes me mad! is there hope sex will be good again???


*UPDATE*Thanks ladies! Your answers and suggestions have helped me discover that what I am experiencing is NOT normal. I found out I have a bladder prolapse. It was pretty devastating. But I have found natural ways of helping/ reducing prolapse symptoms without surgery. So thanks!

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:59 PM
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deccaf
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:00 PM

We didn't even attempt until 4 months after.

melindabelcher
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:01 PM
That much discomfort this far postpartum I would talk to your midwife/ob.
The average time for me is about 3-4 weeks.
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lifeforchrist
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:02 PM

my husband was away for the first 3 months pp so we didn't even get to try until month 4 and i was wondering if that made a difference?

Quoting melindabelcher:

That much discomfort this far postpartum I would talk to your midwife/ob.
The average time for me is about 3-4 weeks.


louzannalady
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:03 PM

My first birth, we were back at it two and half weeks pp, because I had a small tear and a couple of stitches. I would say it took about a week to feel "Wa-who!" and no pain at all. 

My second birth, we were back at it eleven days. I had a water birth and did not tear. And it was a little painful the first two times and we had to go slow with lube. But, it was still great. DS2 is almost three months and we are 100% back- well a little lube because I am nursing. : ) 

lifeforchrist
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:05 PM
Quoting louzannalady:

My first birth, we were back at it two and half weeks pp, because I had a small tear and a couple of stitches. I would say it took about a week to feel "Wa-who!" and no pain at all. 

My second birth, we were back at it eleven days. I had a water birth and did not tear. And it was a little painful the first two times and we had to go slow with lube. But, it was still great. DS2 is almost three months and we are 100% back- well a little lube because I am nursing. : ) 

Lucky! I wish I knew why my vagina refuses to work! Sex never was amazing before birth, i oculd never get aroused and the big O was a NEVER. But after birth its just horrible! Wish I could get back to it like you guys do!

BridgetMc
by Bronze Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:06 PM
With my first it took about 18 months before it wasn't uncomfortable. But I had a tear at the top. My cervix tore and then down from there. I also don't heal well. I develop painful kyloids so I suspect that was part of the problem. With my second I tore in a more "normal" way and that healed much more quickly. Everything was back to normal by about five weeks.
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jellyphish
by Platinum Member on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:11 PM
No. Whether he was there or not you should be healed by now. I second contacting a health practitioner.

Quoting lifeforchrist:

my husband was away for the first 3 months pp so we didn't even get to try until month 4 and i was wondering if that made a difference?

Quoting melindabelcher:

That much discomfort this far postpartum I would talk to your midwife/ob.

The average time for me is about 3-4 weeks.


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louzannalady
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:31 PM

Have you been checked out, to see if you have a hormone inbalance? 

Quoting lifeforchrist:

Quoting louzannalady:

My first birth, we were back at it two and half weeks pp, because I had a small tear and a couple of stitches. I would say it took about a week to feel "Wa-who!" and no pain at all. 

My second birth, we were back at it eleven days. I had a water birth and did not tear. And it was a little painful the first two times and we had to go slow with lube. But, it was still great. DS2 is almost three months and we are 100% back- well a little lube because I am nursing. : ) 

Lucky! I wish I knew why my vagina refuses to work! Sex never was amazing before birth, i oculd never get aroused and the big O was a NEVER. But after birth its just horrible! Wish I could get back to it like you guys do!


Mrs.Salz
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:51 PM

It should be better by now. I'm wondering if you have a partial prolapse or other issue. I would definitely contact a midwife or OB.

peaches_04
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 3:07 PM
Ill let you know when i get there
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