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I feel like the only one :( vent

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I feel like the only person in "real" life that doesn't practice CIO :(  My cousin posted this FB status: 

Does anyone else have a marathon crier at night? "Cry it out" or "extinction" methods state that a baby may cry 20 or possibly 45 min before falling asleep. Our babe has no issue with crying for 1.5-2 hours before we go check on her. Is C the only one who actually cries this long at night?

Every person that has responded to it so far with advice on various other CIO methods...  I feel so bad for this baby!  She's an avid BabyWise follower as well, scheduling feedings 4 hours apart before 3 months while breastfeeding.  When she complained about having a fussy baby then, everyone just told her to give cereal in a bottle *sigh*  As much as I try to help educate her, in a kind matter, everyone else keeps reinforcing the Babywise type methods

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by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 2:21 AM
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parisonmom
by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:50 PM
I do the CIO method but not like that. Poor baby needs to be with someone else.
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PoodleMum
by Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:57 PM
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My DH kept telling me we should use it to get our toddler to sleep (she went through a rough period of waking every 20-30 minutes ALL NIGHT), but every time I tried to put her to bed by herself, he'd snatch her up at the slightest fuss lol. 

Quoting SarineLewis:

I personally think the cry it out method is cruel. Dh and I tried it once. We lasted 2 hours (checking every 20 min) and decided it wasn't for us.


melindabelcher
by mel on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:59 PM
I have a crier and I hate it. Shes gone hrs just crying and crying :'(
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PoodleMum
by Member on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:13 PM

My first was like that til we found out she was allergic to dairy, but we never just left her by herself :(  DH worked nights, but my MIL would hold her when I needed a break.  I never even considered just letting her cry if I was on my own!

Quoting melindabelcher:

I have a crier and I hate it. Shes gone hrs just crying and crying :'(


melindabelcher
by mel on Nov. 18, 2012 at 4:22 PM
Oh yah. we hold/sing/rock/nurse etc.
There has been a couple times when I put her down to center myself or go to the bathroom.
I felt pressured to let my first cio I fought it but I thought it was normal. I tried a.couple times but it was so sad that I couldn't follow through. He bed shared until 2 and we never again tried cio again. And ive since learned how harmful it is.
It's sad :(


Quoting PoodleMum:

My first was like that til we found out she was allergic to dairy, but we never just left her by herself :(  DH worked nights, but my MIL would hold her when I needed a break.  I never even considered just letting her cry if I was on my own!

Quoting melindabelcher:

I have a crier and I hate it. Shes gone hrs just crying and crying :'(



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Tinkermom77
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:15 AM

never could handle the CIO stuff. It breaks my heart when any of my kids cry, no matter the reason. Poor baby needs love not to be ignored and afraid.

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Diamondblue1
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 2:04 AM
You can't listen to what everyone says:(
joyful_mama
by Bronze Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:08 AM
:( poor baby
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rockyhugs35
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:12 AM
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Oh my goodness that poor poor baby. I fed on demand and dd didn't sleep through the night until 11 months. I've let her cry for 10min max. And I know her I'm just making noise as opposed to scared/hungry. I could never let her cry for that long :(
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LuvAZmomma
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 8:36 AM

Even with CIO I have only heard to leave baby for a max of 10-15 min before checking on them. Even if she wanted to CIO she is doing it wrong. I would never leave my baby crying for 20 min without at least checking on them.  I am not saying either way is right or wrong. but leaving a baby to cry for 1.5-2 hours is just wrong. How old is that baby?

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