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36 week check-up. Should I decline the vaginal exam?

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I had a hospital transfer and c-section at 39 weeks with my first pregnancy due to pre-eclampsia, and we were in the hospital over a week getting my blood pressure and DS's jaundice under control.

I have the same wonderful midwife this time around, and we're both on board for a VBAC at her birth center.  (Fingers crossed that pre-e doesn't rear its head this time around!).

So, she said she typically likes to do a vaginal exam at 36 weeks, but she won't if I don't want one.

I'm not so sure that declining would benefit me, as I'm hoping to arm myself with as much information as possible to help ensure this delivery goes as we'd planned our last one.  If my cervix doesn't show signs of ripening, she has some alternative measures she can take (herbs, I think), but if we don't do the exam, we simply won't know...

Yet I don't want a vag exam to halt whatever progress I might be having, as I'm already a bit head-shy about delivery, considering my first birth experience...

Any thoughts, ladies?

 

 

by on Nov. 18, 2012 at 3:18 AM
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Duquesne
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:34 AM
Because I wasn't in labor. Lol. And you're a nurse? With that confusion, my point is proven....which is why I don't go in. Lack of education. And no antibiotics were needed. :) nor cervical checks. Teehee. Those aren't required in a vbac either.


Quoting amberklo:

yes and in.the NICU i have meet mothers who have went weeks with water broken.my SIL included its called antibiotics.They start it was soon as it breaks when your in preterm labor.Other then that your stpry does not make sense why in the heck.would you go 3days with your water broke




Quoting Duquesne:

My water was broken for three days. No cervical checks. No infection. You risk infection by jamming fingers up there with a broken water sac.





Ask diamond about her risk free cervix checks.






Quoting amberklo:

also after your water breaks you can get an infection so do you not them check your cervix as well








Quoting amberklo:

you can get an infection from having sex from.having a paps there are alll kinds of ways so do you not have sex or get paps?










Quoting Duquesne:

Ask someone who got an infection. Just because you're unaware of the risks, doesn't mean there aren't any. ;)












Quoting amberklo:

therebare no risk lol.I had a great vback no problems 4th pregnancy never had any problems














Quoting Duquesne:

No offense, but you had some complications afterwards, didn't you? That's the risk of vaginal exams.
















Quoting Diamondblue1:

Get it done so you'll know what you're dealing with. I had a lot of exams myself but they were worth it.








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amberklo
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:35 AM
I didnt either until my friend found out she had cervical cancer.He 1st one was when she was about 8wks prrgnant she waited until she had the baby to do anymore testing.After she gave birth she found out her add normal pap was cervical cancer


Quoting Duquesne:

I don't see the point of getting paps in pregnancy? Lol




Quoting amberklo:

yeap my.point proven Og FYI a paps is how my friend found out she had cervical cancer






Quoting Duquesne:

No. I get no paps. And vaginal checks don't get me off.







The issue with them is that they tell you nothing. So you risk infection for no damn reason at all. Feel free to get them but to pretend they're important and risk free at 36 weeks is laughable.








Quoting amberklo:

you can get an infection from having sex from.having a paps there are alll kinds of ways so do you not have sex or get paps?










Quoting Duquesne:

Ask someone who got an infection. Just because you're unaware of the risks, doesn't mean there aren't any. ;)












Quoting amberklo:

therebare no risk lol.I had a great vback no problems 4th pregnancy never had any problems














Quoting Duquesne:

No offense, but you had some complications afterwards, didn't you? That's the risk of vaginal exams.
















Quoting Diamondblue1:

Get it done so you'll know what you're dealing with. I had a lot of exams myself but they were worth it.








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ToriBabe1221
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:37 AM
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Oh, and i had a successful vbac. The ONLY vaginal check i had, was duringlabor. I was becoming discouraged, and asked for one to check progress.
They simply aren't needed!
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Duquesne
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 9:39 AM
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Op---guess some women want to argue silly points to make them feel better about their choices (unneeded since they're free to make their own:) ) but....
1. Cervix checks don't tell you anything.
2. They pose a risk of infection. So if seeing how far along you are at that precise second is worth it, then make that decision. Just remember it says nothing about where your progress will go the next hour.
3. At 36 weeks, know it can stimulate labor. Which would be preterm, still, in your case.
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kitchen.sink
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:11 PM

Personally, I wouldn't do it. As others have said, it's not any indicator of when you may go into labor or how long that labor would be, and there is a risk of infection EVERY time. 

mom2the.rescue
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:56 PM

Skip it...IMO it's just messing with mother nature kwim?

mom2the.rescue
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 12:59 PM
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getting a pap early in the pregnancy to make sure your body is healthy to go full term is way different than getting any vaginal exams 36 wks into a healthy pregnancy.  At this point, the only thing that should be going in her vagina is her husband's penis.

Quoting amberklo:

I didnt either until my friend found out she had cervical cancer.He 1st one was when she was about 8wks prrgnant she waited until she had the baby to do anymore testing.After she gave birth she found out her add normal pap was cervical cancer


Quoting Duquesne:

I don't see the point of getting paps in pregnancy? Lol




Quoting amberklo:

yeap my.point proven Og FYI a paps is how my friend found out she had cervical cancer






Quoting Duquesne:

No. I get no paps. And vaginal checks don't get me off.







The issue with them is that they tell you nothing. So you risk infection for no damn reason at all. Feel free to get them but to pretend they're important and risk free at 36 weeks is laughable.








Quoting amberklo:

you can get an infection from having sex from.having a paps there are alll kinds of ways so do you not have sex or get paps?










Quoting Duquesne:

Ask someone who got an infection. Just because you're unaware of the risks, doesn't mean there aren't any. ;)












Quoting amberklo:

therebare no risk lol.I had a great vback no problems 4th pregnancy never had any problems














Quoting Duquesne:

No offense, but you had some complications afterwards, didn't you? That's the risk of vaginal exams.
















Quoting Diamondblue1:

Get it done so you'll know what you're dealing with. I had a lot of exams myself but they were worth it.









amberklo
by Member on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:03 PM
same concept though you shouldnt miss something just out of risk for infection.If you are bot going to do it at 36wks do it just because you dont want it done yet dont.do.it for an invaled reason.Besides this was towards why you should get a paps done


Quoting mom2the.rescue:

getting a pap early in the pregnancy to make sure your body is healthy to go full term is way different than getting any vaginal exams 36 wks into a healthy pregnancy.  At this point, the only thing that should be going in her vagina is her husband's penis.


Quoting amberklo:

I didnt either until my friend found out she had cervical cancer.He 1st one was when she was about 8wks prrgnant she waited until she had the baby to do anymore testing.After she gave birth she found out her add normal pap was cervical cancer



Quoting Duquesne:

I don't see the point of getting paps in pregnancy? Lol





Quoting amberklo:

yeap my.point proven Og FYI a paps is how my friend found out she had cervical cancer







Quoting Duquesne:

No. I get no paps. And vaginal checks don't get me off.







The issue with them is that they tell you nothing. So you risk infection for no damn reason at all. Feel free to get them but to pretend they're important and risk free at 36 weeks is laughable.









Quoting amberklo:

you can get an infection from having sex from.having a paps there are alll kinds of ways so do you not have sex or get paps?











Quoting Duquesne:

Ask someone who got an infection. Just because you're unaware of the risks, doesn't mean there aren't any. ;)













Quoting amberklo:

therebare no risk lol.I had a great vback no problems 4th pregnancy never had any problems















Quoting Duquesne:

No offense, but you had some complications afterwards, didn't you? That's the risk of vaginal exams.

















Quoting Diamondblue1:

Get it done so you'll know what you're dealing with. I had a lot of exams myself but they were worth it.











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mom2the.rescue
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:09 PM

They're talking about getting an exam at 36 wks pregnant to see if you're dilating or thinning out.  Paps are generally not done this late in pregnancy.   Choosing to not get the exam because there really is no reason to doesn't mean you're doing it for invalid reasons lol.

Quoting amberklo:

same concept though you shouldnt miss something just out of risk for infection.If you are bot going to do it at 36wks do it just because you dont want it done yet dont.do.it for an invaled reason.Besides this was towards why you should get a paps done


Quoting mom2the.rescue:

getting a pap early in the pregnancy to make sure your body is healthy to go full term is way different than getting any vaginal exams 36 wks into a healthy pregnancy.  At this point, the only thing that should be going in her vagina is her husband's penis.


Quoting amberklo:



marynash88
by on Nov. 19, 2012 at 1:12 PM
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Skip it. The VE will not change anything in regards to when you will go into labor. With you being a VBAC, everyone should be keeping their hands outta you and you should have low stress. Your body knows what its doing, give it the opportunity to show you :)

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