I'm pregnant with my 2nd baby. My son, Nash, is 7. I had him when I was 19 and my pregnancy was perfect. I had no complications and am hoping for the same result this time. However, when it came to the labor and delivery I wasn't totally happy. I can only describe it as medical.
I felt like my doctor was being too pushy with trying to hurry things along to get Nash out. I went in for a check-up on my due date and I wasn't showing any signs of going into labor. I wasn't worried since both Nash and I were healthy. My doctor decided I wasn't going to go into labor on my own and scheduled me for an induction. During the induction I was given pitocin. My doctor didn't like how slow things were going and kept uping the dosage. I was in so much pain that I ended up getting an epidural. Nash's heart had dips from the contractions so I was also given oxygen. I felt like I was constantly being checked and wasn't able to simply labor like my body was meant to do. When it finally came time to deliver I again felt like my doctor was in a hurry. He kept telling me "Okay you're having a contraction. Push". I couldn't feel anything because of the epidural so pushing was hard. Instead of turning the epidural down (or off) they just had me keep pushing. After 2 hours I'd barely moved Nash down. My doctor told me if I didn't deliver soon I'd have to have a c-section. I finally spoke up and told them to take the epidural out. Instead of letting me take a rest and get some energy back, my doctor just kept telling me to push. The next hour I made some progress, but I was so tired from the useless pushing I'd done the previous 2 hours. The only glimmer of hope was that Nash's heart still looked good. Finally after 3 hours (almost 3 and a half), they could see Nash's head. My doctor didn't think I had enough strength to push him out so decided to use forceps. I didn't want forceps, but he said that he didn't think Nash was going to come just from my pushing. So being a newbie mom I agreed because I thought it was safer. Half an hour later Nash was finally out and in my arms. He had marks on his head from the forceps, and I had a small tear.
It all felt so unnecessary. I know I probably should've spoken up more, but I was young and unsure. This time around I want to do things my way. I want things to happen naturally. I want to go into labor on my own. Labor at home with Chris (boyfriend) and Nash as long as I can. Go to the hospital when my body tells me it's time. Use the birthing ball, shower/tub....anything the will help keep me relaxed. I'm not saying I won't use pain medication, but I at least want to try not to. When it's time to push, I want to do it when my body tells me to. I also want my baby to come out crying and strong. Nash was so floppy and tired. I also want to help catch my baby, or maybe have Chris do it. Nash's dad wasn't able to do any of that. I know not all doctors are like the one I had, but I truly believe a midwife will be supportive of my requests. Of course I'll accept medical intervention if it's a question of safety because I don't want to put my or my baby's life at risk. I just want a nicer experience this time.
Sorry this was so long. Thanks for listening ladies. I appreciate it.