I am 19 weeks pregnant with baby #4. I have learned SO much in the last 5 years, since my oldest was born & I feel like I've been continually chasing after my perfect birth experience. My 1st was a terrible experience that nearly ended in c-s. My 2nd, I switched to a midwife (or should I say, medwife) & nearly ended up with a c-s again. My last birth was much closer to what I was desiring, but still left me lacking. (I labored on my own, but delivered in the hospital - again with a medwife). I had REALLY wanted to do a homebirth this time around. There are 3 hb midwives that cover my area. 1 of them is unavailable around my due date. And the other 2, I just didn't love or feel a connection with. In the process of interviewing & trying to make a decision (and trying to figure out where the money would come from in the budget), I thought that I had a vaginal prolapse. I tried to go back to the office that I went to for my last 2 babies, but they were "too busy" to see me for 2 weeks & recommended that I go to the ER. I wasn't happy with the way I was treated (I've later found out that their office has gone through lots of changes since I was there last.), so I called another office. They are close to home & have 2 OBs. I got in the same day to be seen & found out that I had a serious infection. I've stayed with them for prenatal visits, but this office is known to be very pro-induction & pro-c-section.
I've seriously considered doing a planned, unassisted homebirth, but I also have fear (mostly based on being un-educated) about it. I also don't know how supportive DH would be about it. He wasn't yet completely convinced about a mw assisted hb. At this moment, my current plan is to wait labor out as long as possible & show up at the hospital just in time to push. However, I know that this can lead to an unplanned UC. I don't really want the fight with the hospital either about no vit-k, no eye drops, no hep b, etc. I don't want my baby's birth to be surrounded by having to fight to keep him/her as she was born.
Anyhow, all of this is what has lead me to this group & I just thought I'd share it all with you. If any of you have any thoughts or advice, I'll happily read them :)