Quoting larissalarie: About 4 seconds? Visitors don't bother me, being alone doesn't bother me. It's all good and I see the positive in either.
I'm dreading visitors. Not so much at the hospital but when we get home my ILs are coming for a few days. I have to learn to bf, cloth diaper and be a mom in front of my MIL and FIL. I don't feel comfortable bfing in front of FIL either so that means going upstairs to feed LO.
I come home from the hospital same day. If it were up to me, we wouldn't tell anyone I was in labor, and no one could visit for the first couple days! Haha. But I compromise. Only baby's grandparents are allowed to visit in the hospital. The inlaws are nuts and want to wait in the waiting room while I deliver. My dad and step mom usually come after baby has been born. After I shower and get cleaned up I accept visitors. They usually only stay for half hr to and hr. during the first week home, only immediate family visits. Ie our parents, siblings, niece and nephews, grandparents. I feel great after baby, and everyone is respectful and doesn't stay long, so it all works out.
As much as possible - skin to skin, time alone, and time for BFing is really important to me.
DS1 was born at a hospital and we didn't have any visitors for the whole first day. It was so nice to just enjoy being our little family and not dealing with anyone else.
DS2 will be born at home and I'd like at least a few hours before my inlaws bring our toddler to see us and then visit themselves. I'll be asking my parents to stay at home for a few days since they live in another state and will end up staying with us for a few days. I don't want house guests but kinda have to put up with it.
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