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My First Pediatrician Confrontation *Update in Red*

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After being with her for 4 years! OMG I got so pissed off at her. Apparently now that my son is 4 years old the body cant do its job at keeping his penis clean and we have to retract it and clean between the head and the foreskin. Although the look of shock on her face when I said no and got my son completely dressed and ready to leave was priceless and she sat on the floor next to me aguring with me and speaking practicially directly to my fiance like he was going to back her up lol She finally said it was our choice and that we could take the chance and change the subject lol ya Im really taking a chance trusting my sons body to naturally do what its meant to do *rolls my eyes*

Anyway I would like to send her and the entire office info and keep info in the diaper bag for if we decide to take our youngest there for his one year next month, Im really thinking of contacting the local family doctor here now and talking to him since he took care of me. 

So can I get all the useful links that I can print off?



If you cant read that it says "After 4 years and two kids I will not be bringing either of my sons back to COPA. Im disgusted by how uneducated the pediatricians are on intact penile care of children and how they are telling parents to retract the foreskin which can and does cause damage, infection and pain to the child. You NEVER retract the foreskin, only the child is allowed to do that and it should not be retractable till after puberty. You only clean the outside of it, only clean what is seen. Im posting links in the comments and I hope that your doctors will take the time to educate themselves and stop telling parents lies and inaccurate and harmful info." Its my first step and this publically calls them out about it and I will also be sending them some of the Intact Care packets from The Whole Network. We made the spur of the moment decision today when I drove 20 minutes (COPA is two hours away) to meet up with my mom and decided to see if the clinis that my mom took me to as a child still had my old doctor there and if they took our insurance, yes on both and I know he will not fight me on anything which I love. Now I just have a stack of paperwork to fill out lol and dealing the the pedicatrician office to transfer records and getting a copy of the boy's NICU records incase they want to look at those too. 

by on Jan. 7, 2013 at 11:42 PM
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winterglow
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 10:16 AM

It's incredible how many pedis know absolutely zilch about taking care of a penis. Sigh. The foreskin will retract when it's ready and for some boys that means when they're well into their teens (althouigh that's not standard) and trying to clean under it until that time is totally pointless. Yanking it back to clean under it before it's ready is INCREDIBLY PAINFUL!!!

I hope some of this will be of use to you:

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/uncircumcised-penis/AN02045

http://www.drgreene.com/qa/cleaning-penis-intact-foreskin

and this one has LOTS of information!

http://www.circumstitions.com/Care.html

Mrs.Salz
by on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:19 AM

She might be most interested in the doctorsopposingcircumcision website, since it comes from medical professionals. Check the AAP website too to see if they have care standards (pretty sure they do).

The Whole Network has a lot of great information, but I don't know if she would consider that "reputable."

Nicolle_09
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:25 AM
Oh she believes it shouls be the childs choice to make when older she just believes it has to be retracted and clean even though the aap even states to only clean the outside

Quoting madisonsmom2005:

I can't believe that she doesn't respect a choice that was made as a family. You have educated yourself on it and all she needed to ask you is if there were any concerns. What if it was a religious choice? Would she have said anything then? How ridiculous! My DH and I have talked about this several times. We have both agreed to have our son circumcised, but I still respect and will never judge anyone who makes an educated choice for their own family. I can't believe a health care professional can be so narrow minded! I'm so sorry this happened to you and I hope you can find the right solution.

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Nicolle_09
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:28 AM
I was looking at an older aap article lastnight that states to leave it alone, sadly their new policy doesnt say anything and just makes my head hurt when i try to read it.

Quoting Mrs.Salz:

She might be most interested in the doctorsopposingcircumcision website, since it comes from medical professionals. Check the AAP website too to see if they have care standards (pretty sure they do).

The Whole Network has a lot of great information, but I don't know if she would consider that "reputable."

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jjchick75
by Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:32 AM
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If she would have undressed my son without my permission I would have picked him up and left and wouldn't go back. That freaks me out more than her telling you to retract his foreskin frankly.

tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Jan. 8, 2013 at 5:04 PM

I personally would do lead tests just because lead poisoning is SUCH a big deal, it can cause some serious issues with no symptoms early on

Quoting Nicolle_09:

The only other issue we had was her wanting to draw my youngests blood to test for lead since we live in an old house but daddy dealt with that lol

I hope she remembers today if we do take my youngest there for his one year.


Quoting jconney80:

I don't have any links but I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hate getting in confrontations like that. Sadly lately I've had too many of them


Nicolle_09
by Silver Member on Jan. 8, 2013 at 5:52 PM
Im not worried about it in this house. My mom and uncles were raised here as was i and my oldest was tested for it. Pipes were replaced after the ban on lead and its been renovated and repainted more times then i can count





Now if it was any other house that was built before 1950 i would have had it done




Quoting tabi_cat1023:

I personally would do lead tests just because lead poisoning is SUCH a big deal, it can cause some serious issues with no symptoms early on




Quoting Nicolle_09:

The only other issue we had was her wanting to draw my youngests blood to test for lead since we live in an old house but daddy dealt with that lol







I hope she remembers today if we do take my youngest there for his one year.








Quoting jconney80:

I don't have any links but I'm sorry you had to deal with that. I hate getting in confrontations like that. Sadly lately I've had too many of them


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VintageWife
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 12:07 AM

I don't see a problem with peds checking genitals to make sure they're correctly developing, but telling you to retract it is ridiculous!

LondonsMomma84
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:43 AM

I would not be going back to her after that.

Quoting Nicolle_09:

Im not sure why she was, I was dealing with our youngest and she had him undressed before I knew it (daddy isnt the type either to speak up) and when she went to touch my son near his privates he freaked out and then she asked me to retract him slightly then I freaked out on her. Im glad my son knows that no one should be touching there. 

Quoting Banani263:

Why would she be inspecting anyways? Im not ok with that alone unless I was asking a rash or some kind of "privates" question



LondonsMomma84
by on Jan. 9, 2013 at 3:45 AM

This!!!

Quoting jjchick75:

If she would have undressed my son without my permission I would have picked him up and left and wouldn't go back. That freaks me out more than her telling you to retract his foreskin frankly.


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