My total natural delivery I lost my focus and was noisy and overwhelmed for about 2-3 contractions. I got ahold of myself realized I was in transition and birthed the rest of the way with minimal noise except to tell dh and ob to "shut up and i'm well aware babies head is half out, it's stretching I'm not pushing yet" I was confident #3 would be the same. But when I lost it in transition I never got a grip. It was an induction and it was just to fast. I actually was crab walking up the bed as she was coming out, I was to out of it to understand or feel her coming out. It wasnt my finest moment.
Im nervous that with future deliveries if other ppl are in the room i would be embarrassed and feel judged.
For those who had extras (beyond so, medical personell) how did you feel about sounding, grunting etc. did you ever lose it?
Quoting Mrs.Salz:I think at some point most women get into "laborland" and don't care much about what's going on around them or who sees them naked. lol
Maybe you could invite them to the birth, explain your reservations, and have the expectation that you/your doula/DH will ask them to leave at any time if you are uncomfortable?
Quoting melindabelcher:
Good. I'm not the only one :)
I'm wanting my next possibly final (hypothetical) baby to be a homebirth with *supportive* family around.
I know many of our family members have wanted to be present but my own self consciousness has prevented that
Quoting Mrs.Salz:This is one reason why I don't invite people to my births. I'm working on getting over it, but I'm one of those people who is really self-conscious and continually wondering what people think. I don't want to deal with that while I'm in labor.
With my second, it was more embarrassing that I pooped during pushing. Not a lot or big, just enough that I was aware of it.
Quoting melindabelcher:
that's a great idea! Thankyou!
Quoting Mrs.Salz:I think at some point most women get into "laborland" and don't care much about what's going on around them or who sees them naked. lol
Maybe you could invite them to the birth, explain your reservations, and have the expectation that you/your doula/DH will ask them to leave at any time if you are uncomfortable?
Quoting melindabelcher:
Good. I'm not the only one :)
I'm wanting my next possibly final (hypothetical) baby to be a homebirth with *supportive* family around.
I know many of our family members have wanted to be present but my own self consciousness has prevented that
Quoting Mrs.Salz:This is one reason why I don't invite people to my births. I'm working on getting over it, but I'm one of those people who is really self-conscious and continually wondering what people think. I don't want to deal with that while I'm in labor.
Make sure whoever you have in the room understands labor, believe me most women get it, men maybe not, but most women totally reflect back on their own deliveries.
I had my mom and MIL in the room when I was laboring LOUDLY and I told them I am loud deal with it....lol
Quoting tabi_cat1023:Make sure whoever you have in the room understands labor, believe me most women get it, men maybe not, but most women totally reflect back on their own deliveries.
I had my mom and MIL in the room when I was laboring LOUDLY and I told them I am loud deal with it....lol
I told my husband, the way we know it is about time to push is when I start with the " whose idea was it to have another baby? who the hell thought this was a good idea?"
I have always been really worried about yelling though, in the hospital I don't want to scare other new moms, (potentially first timers) and at home my kids were all asleep as it was the middle of the night
I apologized for yelling, but was told that I am actually really quiet
the important thing about yelling
- melindabelcher
on Jan. 8, 2013 at 11:12 AM