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Advice on my birth plan please

Posted by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 12:56 AM
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This is my first and his first vaginal birth. I think i covered everything i cld think there anything i shld spell out further or i missed? I was trying to state it gently...i can be a bitch but am trying not to bridezilla the birth :) thanks in advance
Birth Plan
Id like family to be present during labor and my husband Daniel and mom Judy to be present during the birth.
Id like to listen to music,
dim the lights, and take pictures.
If not in active labor, id like to return home. Once admitted i'd like
to have Daniel with me at all times,
to eat if i wish, to stay hydrated by
drinking fluids rather than an iv. If an
iv is a must id prefer a heparin or
saline lock. Also i'd like to be able to
walk and move around as i
As long as baby and i
are fine, if like to have intermittent
fetal monitoring and be allowed to
progress freely without time
I would like to try a
shower, if allowed, breathing
techniques, hot/cold therapy,
massage, birthing ball, and
medications only if necessary. If i
decide to go with pain medication, i
would like systemic. I would like to
avoid an epidural and hoping to go
through with a natural birth.

When its time to push id like to do so
instinctively and be allowed to
prpgress freely as long as baby and i
are doing fine. If stalled i would like
to try natural methods to restart. I
would like to avoid pitocin. I would
like to push in the squatting position
or whatever feels right at the time. I
would like avoid an episiotomy. Also,
please no assistance of birth with
medical instruments. Only gentle
hands if necessary to turn or assist
the baby. I would like to deliver the
placenta naturally as well.
birth i would like delayed cord
clamping and cutting until it stops
pulsing. I would like my baby placed
directly on me and checked there
instead of being taken. I would like
to breastfeed immediately. We,
daniel and myself, are refusing the
eye ointment but are agreeing to the
recommended vaccinations and
screening tests. Id like baby to be
bathed in the room after bonding and
feeding. Please do not take baby
from the room without myself or
daniel. Id like baby to room in at all
We would like our
daughter and other family to be
allowed unlimited visiting after the
baby is bathed.
I am hoping to
exclusively breastfeed. Please do not
offer formula,pacifiers or sugar
water. id like to have the assistance
with nursing if needed and would like
to nurse on demand.
In the
event of a life threatening
emergency, i request all other
options be exhausted before c-
section. If i am unable to answer for
myself, please confer with daniel and
judy, with daniel having the final say.
If a c section is absolutely
necessary, i would like daniel to be
with me and be given the baby as
soon as dried.
If baby needs to
go to the nicu i would like myself or
daniel to accompany him.
Babys name will be tristan
zackery daniel . We would like to
circumcise the baby and would like
it done before leaving the
We would like to go home as soon as possible.
Thank you for your patience and assistance in welcoming our baby.

Elisabeth and Daniel
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by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 2:04 AM
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I would make bullet points with your wants. It will be easier for nurses and doctors to read. Also I have heard that attaching cookies to each copy will make the nurses more likely to read your birth plan and you will be their best friend. Lol
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by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:42 AM

That sounds wonderful!  I wish you all the best during all of it.

by Tabi - Admin on Jan. 17, 2013 at 9:10 AM
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I find it hard to read...put some bullets and it should make things easier.

Maybe organize it by labor, delivery, pain meds, emergency info...etc

by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 9:46 AM
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I would use language that is a little more forceful. Like "absoltely no medical intetventions!" And list the specifics (no IV, no episiotomy, no vacuum, no drugs of any kind, no belly band only intermittent monitoring, no checking every hour etc.) I would also recommend dividing the list up between what you DO and DON'T want (I even color coded mine in green and red.) I can send you a copy of mine if you like :-)
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by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 5:58 PM

Quoting tabi_cat1023:

I find it hard to read...put some bullets and it should make things easier.

Maybe organize it by labor, delivery, pain meds, emergency info...etc

by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 6:33 PM
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You have a great start!

I agree, bullet points (in order of labor, then delivery, then postpartum is usually helpful).

You can also shorten it some by stating something like "I do not consent to the use of pitocin, forceps, episiotomy, no pitocin during the third stage...etc. If they are needed I will give consent at the time"

If you an IV is needed, you won't be able to have a heplock because you'll be attached to fluids, pit, etc. So just decline it altogether.

I'd also suggest being more specific with how frequently you want vaginal exams or monitoring - "intermittent" means different things to different people. Maybe vaginal exams on request, and 10 mins monitoring/hr, for example.

by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 7:00 PM
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Have you considered staying home so that you don't need a birth plan.

by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 9:18 PM
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here is mine 

I will be in control of my labor/delivery. Nothing is to be done to me/baby without fully informing my husband of all risks and side effects and we consent.  
In creating this birth plan I have kept my mind open to all of the things that can happen during birth.

Labor/ delivery 

·         My daughter will be with us during labor and delivery (If she wants to be there) 

·         Negative and unsupportive individuals will not be allowed in the room 

·         I will not be hooked up to an IV (you can place a Hep Lock)

·         Do not offer and pain medication (Pain med free birth)

·         Do not ask about pain level

·         I will move and walk as I wish during labor

·         I want a birthing ball available labor

·         I will want to use a labor/birth tub if available or at least be in the shower

·         I will eat and drink as I feel the need during

·         I do not want fetal moderating (only as I ask)

·         I do not want vaginal exams (unless I ask)

·         I do not want coached pushing. (I will push when I feel the need to.)

·         I WILL NOT GIVE BIRTH ON MY BACK  (Do not offer the stirrups)

·         I will give birth any position at is most comfortable for me.  

After birth

·         The Baby is to be placed on my chest immediately I will breastfeed right after birth.

·         All of baby's examinations and care will be done on my chest.

·         I do not want baby's bath done.

·         Baby's first bath will done by me and husband

·         I do not give my permission or consent to antibiotic eye ointment, Vitamin K shot to be given to the baby

·         Do not clamp the cord till it has stopped pulsing and turns white. (Husband will cut the cord)

·         Placenta will be delivered naturally in its own time ( no pit , no pulling it out manually)

·         DO NOT DISCARD THE PLACENTA ( I will sign what I need to keep it)

·         If the baby is taken the Father will accompany baby ANYWHERE she/ he is taken. 

·         Baby will sleep with me at all times

·         I would like to see a lactation consultant.

·         I do not want pain meds after birth (Tylenol 3)



by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:38 PM

I would ask someone to be there to be your advocate and enforce your birthplan.  The hospital I delivered at completely ignored it.  I was a first time mom and wasn't assertive.  I didn't realize I would be that way, but I was very intimidated by the nurses and midwife so my experience wasn't what I hoped for.

by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 1:13 AM

I would be a bit more demanding in my language. Lol! Ex: do not take baby out of room unless accompanied by myself or my husband. Or...... Do not offer me pain medication unless I ask for it. Things like that...

And bullets, like other moms have mentioned, would make this easier to read :-)

Also, I read that you do not want pitocin. Have you asked your midwife or OBGYN if it is routine to give pitocin to help deliver the placenta? In my hospital it was routine. However, I opted out and had DH on the look out for sneaky little hands. Lol!

Also, do you want DH to cut the cord? Maybe even ask if he can catch baby when he is delivered. :-) 

Things to consider... :-) 

good luck!!! And.... CONGRATULATIONS!!!! 

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