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This is my first baby. I am due april 5. I want to labor for the most part at home. Tell me about your experience. Thank you!
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by on Jan. 18, 2013 at 8:42 PM
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Acarroll21
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 4:37 PM
No actually my water never broke on its own. I have a feeling DD would have been born in the caul, but my midwife suggested breaking it because I was @ 8cm & my bag was bulging. So she broke it & I gave birth 20 Minutes later.


Quoting Corina1987:

When did your water break? Was that how you knew you were definetly in labor?




Quoting Acarroll21:

Yes, I had Braxton Hicks on and off from about 34 Weeks on but they were never in a consistent pattern until 37 Weeks. And even after that, I didnt have DD until 39w1d. So you can have BH for a while. For me the beginning of real labor did feel like false labor, it just never let down. I think thats why I was in denial, because I had been feeling them for a while.






Quoting Corina1987:

I dont mind the length. Thats very interesting. I will be 30 weeks on fri and i had braxton hicks for 7 hours this sat. It was that painful pulling feeling like you had in real labor. I was afraid it was real labor but it stopped. I was wondering if real labor felt like false labor. I will most likely be in denial when the real one comes too.have to get a yoga ball.








Quoting Acarroll21:

No problem! Yeah, it was long now that I think about it lol. It felt quick at the time. I was in denial for the first day because I had been having Braxton Hicks the whole week before. The only difference was that my contractions in early labor were more uncomfortable. They didnt hurt, but it was like a wave where my entire stomach would tighten & pull on my back muscles, if that makes any sense. I remember walking in Walmart with DH & I got the first contraction that made me ”stop” and breathe through it. Every contraction after that I would just stop where I was, put my arms around DHs neck, and just sway back & forth until it ended. And then we would continue shopping. That was about 6-7pm. By 11 pm the contractions had gotten stronger. Same feeling of tightening, but more painful. Kind of like I was flexing all of my abdominal muscles with a stomach ache. At that point I went from my yoga ball to on my hands & knees, and swayed my hips side to side through each contraction. Then they became even stronger (2am) so I got in the shower and sprayed warm water on my tummy through each contraction (I would recommend a tub). I kept rotating depending on what my body wanted to do. Sorry for the length lol










Quoting Corina1987:

I appreciate your openess to give advice. Thank you. I'm planning on doing the same. I never knew much about doulas until now and they sound great but I think my partner and I can do it on our own unless there's a complication this time around. That was a very long labor. How did you know when it started? Where do you feel the pain first and how did it change for you?












Quoting Acarroll21:

I labored at home:) When I got to the hospital I was a 7 & DD was born 2 hrs later. No doula, just the support from DH, my yoga ball & the shower. My entire labor was 33 hrs, 12 hrs of true labor 4-10cm. My advice would be to keep moving. Concentrate through contractions & listen to your body! Ask me anything






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Corina1987
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:02 PM
Ohh alright. That worked out good.


Quoting Acarroll21:

No actually my water never broke on its own. I have a feeling DD would have been born in the caul, but my midwife suggested breaking it because I was @ 8cm & my bag was bulging. So she broke it & I gave birth 20 Minutes later.




Quoting Corina1987:

When did your water break? Was that how you knew you were definetly in labor?






Quoting Acarroll21:

Yes, I had Braxton Hicks on and off from about 34 Weeks on but they were never in a consistent pattern until 37 Weeks. And even after that, I didnt have DD until 39w1d. So you can have BH for a while. For me the beginning of real labor did feel like false labor, it just never let down. I think thats why I was in denial, because I had been feeling them for a while.








Quoting Corina1987:

I dont mind the length. Thats very interesting. I will be 30 weeks on fri and i had braxton hicks for 7 hours this sat. It was that painful pulling feeling like you had in real labor. I was afraid it was real labor but it stopped. I was wondering if real labor felt like false labor. I will most likely be in denial when the real one comes too.have to get a yoga ball.










Quoting Acarroll21:

No problem! Yeah, it was long now that I think about it lol. It felt quick at the time. I was in denial for the first day because I had been having Braxton Hicks the whole week before. The only difference was that my contractions in early labor were more uncomfortable. They didnt hurt, but it was like a wave where my entire stomach would tighten & pull on my back muscles, if that makes any sense. I remember walking in Walmart with DH & I got the first contraction that made me ”stop” and breathe through it. Every contraction after that I would just stop where I was, put my arms around DHs neck, and just sway back & forth until it ended. And then we would continue shopping. That was about 6-7pm. By 11 pm the contractions had gotten stronger. Same feeling of tightening, but more painful. Kind of like I was flexing all of my abdominal muscles with a stomach ache. At that point I went from my yoga ball to on my hands & knees, and swayed my hips side to side through each contraction. Then they became even stronger (2am) so I got in the shower and sprayed warm water on my tummy through each contraction (I would recommend a tub). I kept rotating depending on what my body wanted to do. Sorry for the length lol












Quoting Corina1987:

I appreciate your openess to give advice. Thank you. I'm planning on doing the same. I never knew much about doulas until now and they sound great but I think my partner and I can do it on our own unless there's a complication this time around. That was a very long labor. How did you know when it started? Where do you feel the pain first and how did it change for you?














Quoting Acarroll21:

I labored at home:) When I got to the hospital I was a 7 & DD was born 2 hrs later. No doula, just the support from DH, my yoga ball & the shower. My entire labor was 33 hrs, 12 hrs of true labor 4-10cm. My advice would be to keep moving. Concentrate through contractions & listen to your body! Ask me anything







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sj3starz
by Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:07 PM
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I believe it was Ina May who suggested that pre e and bp issues could be prevented by diet. I could have the wrong source but I do remember hearing/reading during my studies of birthing that a proper diet will eliminate many issues. Medical industry won't admit it though because there's nothing to sell behind people being healthy.

Quoting Corina1987:

My mom had blood pressue problems and my sis had preeclampsia. I dont think theres much I can do to stop that from happening to me besides doctor visits. I dont have a doula. I have a regular obgyn I see.I have been reading and doing alot of research. I never knew there were birth centers so I havent looked into it.




Quoting doulala:

What do you mean by troubled births?
  Have you been learning how to prevent-avoid complications (whether you delivered at home or elsewhere)?
Do you have a doula?    Have you been preparing, taking classes, reading, etc?      What about using a birth center instead?



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FrumpyMama
by Silver Member on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:24 PM
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Just do what you would normally do. Eat, drink, sleep, watch tv, etc. Don't think about it and let your body do what it needs to. Don't be afraid to get into whatever position you feel comfortable in. I layed on our sofa with one leg on the back while napping during labor. Good Luck!

Corina1987
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 5:31 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I will definetly do that.


Quoting FrumpyMama:

Just do what you would normally do. Eat, drink, sleep, watch tv, etc. Don't think about it and let your body do what it needs to. Don't be afraid to get into whatever position you feel comfortable in. I layed on our sofa with one leg on the back while napping during labor. Good Luck!


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littlelambe2
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 6:27 PM

Risks of vaginal exams include infection, stimulating labor, PROM (premature rupture of the membranes), getting your labor set on a schedule, as well as interfering with the emotions of a laboring woman, which can have negative effects on the labor itself. Here are some helpful links:

http://www.natural-pregnancy-mentor.com/vaginal-exams.html

http://midwiferyramblings.blogspot.com/2011/01/vaginal-exams-why-they-are-unnecessary.html?m=1

http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=50

Quoting Corina1987:

Thank you for sharing.I will let them know my demands upfront. Ive been hearing it often that it isnt good to have too many vaginal exams during labor.Why is this a risky practice? I thought the doctor had clean gloves on,etc.


Quoting littlelambe2:


It's your body, your choice. You can limit cervical checks. With my first, I consented to the VE upon admittance. I requested a VE 3 hrs later because my body felt very different (I was at an 8, just entering into transition). I requested my last VE before I pused because I was afraid I wasn't all the way dialiated because the urge to push came about 45 mins after I was at 8 cm. With my second, I consented to the VE upon admittance, but trusted my body entirely to do what I knew it could do. I did not get another VE. My labor went smoothly and delivery was quick. Make sure your doctor supports the woman's natural ability in childbirth. I didn't get any flak for limiting the vaginal exams. If the healthcare provider knows his/her stuff, they can tell where a women is at in labor without having to do a VE. 



Quoting GoodyBrook:





Quoting Corina1987:

Thanks for sharing! It seemed like you had a long labor. Thats so nice you got to do it on your own terms. A hospital would have restricted you to a bed. I wish I could be able to tell how dilated I am at home but I dont have a midwife.Thank you for your well wishes!





Dialation is more important to Medical Professionals, as they use it to show your progress during labor.  And if you're not progressing as fast as they *think* you should, they'll push interventions.


You might go from a 3 to a 10 in 15 minutes, or you might labor for hours at a 4 with no "progress" and then give birth minutes later. 


Knowing your dialiation is not critical for giving birth.  Just listen to your body...









littlelambe2
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 6:31 PM
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I'll pm them to you :) 


Quoting Corina1987:

Thank you for sharing. I would like to hear the full birth stories. When I was having painful false labor this weekend all I felt like doing was resting too. I didnt feel like doing my yoga stretches so much lol. I guess we just have to do what feels right for us. Its good that you made it to the hospital on time. Im glad my hospital is close by just in case I wait too long.


Quoting littlelambe2:

First baby: I was put on bed rest overnight due to high blood pressure at my 41w1d appt. When labor started at 5pm, I was in denial and didn't want to move just in case it wasn't the real deal or labor stopped, because I had a bp check in the morning. I just sat around gabbing with my mom until dh came home. Then, we all went upstairs and watched a movie. After 5.5 hrs of early labor, we left for the hospital once I lost my mucus plug and my ctx were 3 mins apart. I had a snack of a pb sandwich and milk before we left. I had my first VE upon admittance and was found to be at a 5. I had my baby girl naturally 4 hrs after being admitted. 

Second: labor started with ctx 10 mins apart at 9pm. I was 9 days past due already so dh, dd, and I went on a 2 mile stroll. Came home, ctx still 7-10 mins apart. Called the doula and let her know what was happening. She came to the house about 3 hrs after my first ctx. We just sat and gabbed (haha. I'm so active in early labor - not!) for a couple hrs, then I took a shower (for bathing purposes, not to relax) and laid down, as I hadn't had much sleep in the last 24 hrs. At around 3:30 am, I woke up dh and the doula and we headed into the hospital. My ctx were still only 7-10 mins apart, but they were stronger and I was feeling giddy and shaky. I was second guessing myself about heading in, but the hospital was 45 mins away. At the hospital, my first and only VE showed I was at a 5/6 but my posterior baby was not engaged, which was the reason for the spacey ctx. Labored at the hospital for about 3 hrs with ctx only 5-10 mins apart. Baby turned, engaged, and she was born 40 mins later. I was glad I didn't wait for my ctx to get closer together before heading it or we would have had a freeway baby.

i know people say to be active during early labor, but for me, resting was best. Make sure to keep fueled and hydrated though :) both times on the ride in, I was unable to talk through ctx. Feeling giddy and shaky and a little stupid let me know that active labor was right around the corner. Know that if you aren't as far along as you want to be, you don't have to stay. If you want to read my full birth stories, I'd be happy to share :)




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by Group Mod on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:31 PM

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Corina1987
by on Jan. 22, 2013 at 7:46 PM
Thanx for the info


Quoting littlelambe2:

Risks of vaginal exams include infection, stimulating labor, PROM (premature rupture of the membranes), getting your labor set on a schedule, as well as interfering with the emotions of a laboring woman, which can have negative effects on the labor itself. Here are some helpful links:

http://www.natural-pregnancy-mentor.com/vaginal-exams.html

http://midwiferyramblings.blogspot.com/2011/01/vaginal-exams-why-they-are-unnecessary.html?m=1

http://www.nurturingheartsbirthservices.com/blog/?p=50


Quoting Corina1987:

Thank you for sharing.I will let them know my demands upfront. Ive been hearing it often that it isnt good to have too many vaginal exams during labor.Why is this a risky practice? I thought the doctor had clean gloves on,etc.





Quoting littlelambe2:


It's your body, your choice. You can limit cervical checks. With my first, I consented to the VE upon admittance. I requested a VE 3 hrs later because my body felt very different (I was at an 8, just entering into transition). I requested my last VE before I pused because I was afraid I wasn't all the way dialiated because the urge to push came about 45 mins after I was at 8 cm. With my second, I consented to the VE upon admittance, but trusted my body entirely to do what I knew it could do. I did not get another VE. My labor went smoothly and delivery was quick. Make sure your doctor supports the woman's natural ability in childbirth. I didn't get any flak for limiting the vaginal exams. If the healthcare provider knows his/her stuff, they can tell where a women is at in labor without having to do a VE. 




Quoting GoodyBrook:







Quoting Corina1987:

Thanks for sharing! It seemed like you had a long labor. Thats so nice you got to do it on your own terms. A hospital would have restricted you to a bed. I wish I could be able to tell how dilated I am at home but I dont have a midwife.Thank you for your well wishes!







Dialation is more important to Medical Professionals, as they use it to show your progress during labor.  And if you're not progressing as fast as they *think* you should, they'll push interventions.



You might go from a 3 to a 10 in 15 minutes, or you might labor for hours at a 4 with no "progress" and then give birth minutes later. 



Knowing your dialiation is not critical for giving birth.  Just listen to your body...














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Mitzi31
by on Jan. 23, 2013 at 7:16 AM

I did a water birth at a birth center but I tried to do most of my laboring at home. I had no idea what to really expect. I read LOTS of books but that still didn't help to know what I'd feel until the time came since everyone is different.

THe best thing to do is relax. Lay on a couch or bed and focus on breathing (not lamaze breathing since that can actually bring your heart rate up which you don't want). Breathe deep and slow. Try your best NOT to tense up during a contraction. I dilated really quick at home and was a little worried we needed to leave earlier but when I got there I was only a 2. Luckily they kept me and gave me 2 hours to get to a 4 and I did. I KNOW I was dilated more than a 2 when I left home but it was an hour drive and you can actually go backwards in dilating if you're stressed. We ended up getting pulled over and then got an escort so I was so excited that my contractions started going backwards. When I was there and able to relax again I started dilating quickly. So don't worry about being in the car on the way to the hospital... it's very unlikely especially with a first baby that you'll deliver in the car. You're adrenaline kicks and usually keeps that from happening.

Listen to soft music. That helped me a lot. I was actually going to sleep in between contractions. Don't get me wrong it was painful and I was waking up during the contraction but every minute of sleep you can get is good. You will need it cause birthing is exhausting but you get this rush afterwards that is AMAZING!! I was on cloud nine! I took a shower an hour after giving birth and went home 4 hours after that. DD is 6 months now and I'm ready to get pregnant again. Honeslty the birthing was sooo empowering. I'm actually looking forward to it again! :-)

Good luck! You'll do great!

I read these books while pregnant and they were great!

Ina May's guide to natural child birth

Susan McCutcheon Nathural birth the Bradley way (this one is more technical and tells you HOW child brith happens which is very knowledgeable)

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