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C-Section for Cervical Swelling?! (she had her baby--update)

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I'm wondering because my sister in law claims that she has to have a c-section because her cervix is swollen and the internal exam (36week) hurt. She claims the doctor was pushing for a natural labor, but now claims that if she labors she most likely won't be able to deliver. I'm not trying to sway her or anything. She's beyond that even if I wanted to, but I'm just wondering about this because I've never heard of this. I don't mean to sound mean or judgmental against her, but I have a feeling that her doctor is doing this out of convenience and she's just said the "natural" part because I post about birth and breastfeeding (not like others need my approval do what they want with their bodies!)


So, she went ahead with the c-section. Baby was 7lbs 11oz and was put on oxygen (a nasal cannula) because he got fluid in his lungs from the section. My sister was just leaving as they were weaning him off. It irritates me that my SIL would put my nephew's health and safety at risk for her comfort and her refusal to take responsibility to educate herself. Yes, I feel it's important not to become the doctor, but I feel that at the end of the day the buck stops with the parents.

by on Jan. 19, 2013 at 7:19 AM
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Cynthje
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 5:12 PM
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I hope ytou get your VBAC! But you know sometimes a section is the safest way to go but you wont know unless you educate yourself instead of blindly folowing a doctor! Thats what i meant with my comment anyway. Good luck momma

Quoting MonicaV1982:

I had a c-section because I was told I have too much scar tissue. I'm still looking up ways to try and have a vbac.


Quoting Cynthje:

Poor baby :( Sadly a lot of parents wont learn even from something like this





 Throughout the world, there exists a group of women who feel mightily drawn to giving care to women in childbirth. At the same time maternal and independent, responsive to a mother's needs, yet accepting full responsibility as her attendant; such women are natural midwives. Without the presence and acceptance of the midwife, obstetrics becomes aggressive, technical, and inhuman.

Professor G.J. Kloosterman, Chief of OB/GYN, Univ. of Amsterdam

 


MonicaV1982
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 5:37 PM


No, I don't but the thing that makes me upset is that she even told me that she wasn't going to bother doing any self-educating. making a decision like this is important. Besides I'm just venting frustration. Of course I could be wrong in that specific case.

Quoting Duquesne:

So, you must know the whole story to be so judgmental?



larissalarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 5:39 PM
Why would you say that's "not right"? Are you saying she's not being truthful?
2 out of my 3 pregnancies so far haven't included vaginal exams. My first pregnancy had them at the end, but the other 2 didn't.
Quoting Beth3721:

 So you went your whole pregnancy without a cervical exam?  I don't think that's right.




Quoting MonicaV1982:


As for regular checks they bother me, but for pregnancy exams I never had one because I have to have real medically necessary c-sections.


Quoting Beth3721:


Never heard of it.  Don't most cervical exams hurt?  Mine did. 


 


 




 

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Beth3721
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:40 PM

 You must be one of those people that like to pick fights.  How on earth would you interperet that into me saying someone wasn't being truthful. Keep reading lady.


Quoting larissalarie:

Any would you say that's "not right"? Are you saying she's not being truthful?
2 out of my 3 pregnancies so far haven't included vaginal exams. My first pregnancy had them at the end, but the other 2 didn't.


Quoting Beth3721:

 So you went your whole pregnancy without a cervical exam?  I don't think that's right.


 


Quoting MonicaV1982:


As for regular checks they bother me, but for pregnancy exams I never had one because I have to have real medically necessary c-sections.


Quoting Beth3721:


Never heard of it.  Don't most cervical exams hurt?  Mine did. 


 


 


 


 


 

larissalarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 6:49 PM
Haha, you couldn't be more incorrect. I just don't know how else you interpret someone saying that they didn't have vaginal exams and you responding: "I don't think that's right" I guess it could mean someone stuck a hand up your vagina and you just missed it somehow? Lol.


Quoting Beth3721:

 You must be one of those people that like to pick fights.  How on earth would you interperet that into me saying someone wasn't being truthful. Keep reading lady.




Quoting larissalarie:

Any would you say that's "not right"? Are you saying she's not being truthful?
2 out of my 3 pregnancies so far haven't included vaginal exams. My first pregnancy had them at the end, but the other 2 didn't.



Quoting Beth3721:


 So you went your whole pregnancy without a cervical exam?  I don't think that's right.



 



Quoting MonicaV1982:



As for regular checks they bother me, but for pregnancy exams I never had one because I have to have real medically necessary c-sections.



Quoting Beth3721:



Never heard of it.  Don't most cervical exams hurt?  Mine did. 



 



 



 



 




 

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hapababies
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 7:24 PM
What are you taking about? I'm not starting a fight and I have never started a fight. I'm just saying that name calling is unnecessary and makes you look like you can't get your point across any other way.
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larissalarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 7:32 PM
What was her comment? It shows she quoted me, but nothing's there, I guess CM deleted it?

Quoting hapababies:

What are you taking about? I'm not starting a fight and I have never started a fight. I'm just saying that name calling is unnecessary and makes you look like you can't get your point across any other way.
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MonicaV1982
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 7:42 PM

I'm confused. Are you talking to me? I never called anyone including my SIL names. I just said I was frustrated that she refused to educate herself and her choice harmed my nephew.


Quoting hapababies:

What are you taking about? I'm not starting a fight and I have never started a fight. I'm just saying that name calling is unnecessary and makes you look like you can't get your point across any other way.



larissalarie
by on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:00 PM
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She was talking to Beth-whatever who apparently said something delete worthy to me.

Quoting MonicaV1982:

I'm confused. Are you talking to me? I never called anyone including my SIL names. I just said I was frustrated that she refused to educate herself and her choice harmed my nephew.



Quoting hapababies:

What are you taking about? I'm not starting a fight and I have never started a fight. I'm just saying that name calling is unnecessary and makes you look like you can't get your point across any other way.




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hapababies
by Silver Member on Jan. 25, 2013 at 8:46 PM
Oh my goodness, no, that wasn't directed at you. I was quoting the other person and it posted by itself.


Quoting MonicaV1982:

I'm confused. Are you talking to me? I never called anyone including my SIL names. I just said I was frustrated that she refused to educate herself and her choice harmed my nephew.



Quoting hapababies:

What are you taking about? I'm not starting a fight and I have never started a fight. I'm just saying that name calling is unnecessary and makes you look like you can't get your point across any other way.





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