sleep training for a 2.5 year old? UPDATE: nite 1
any advise? my 2.5 year old has been sleeping just horribly and i dont know how to help him. he has been waking up 3-6 times per night and staying up for long periods of time. we go from his bed, to the couch, to our bed....its like musical sleep spaces. and he doesnt sleep well in ANY of them. sometimes he will go for a few days where he will sleep great but then he switches back to sleeping like crap and disrupts the entire household.
last night he finally went to bed at 9, then he was back up by 11 and we snuggled on the couch until he fell asleep. by midnight my neck was killing me and i was sick of getting kicked. i got up and went to my bed. then within an hour he was back up. then my husband snuggled him on the couch. by 3 am he finally came back to bed. by 4 am our son was back up AGAIN. we brought him into our bed where he wispered and kicked and was a general pain in the butt until my husband got up to go to work at 5. i spent the next hour trying to get him to go back to sleep but he spent most of the time hanging half off the bed kicking the frame. by 6:15 he ran out of the room, into the bathroom and threw cat food everywhere.
now if he had just gone to SLEEP at 9 then getting up at around 6 would be no big deal. but i cant handle this sort of disruptive sleep. i have adrenal fatigue and my body creates cortizol when i hit REM....so if i dont ever get to that point then i literally feel so ill the next day i can barely function. this is a big reason why i started taking sleep meds (which i have recently weaned myself off of) and i need to figure something out. if he was a tiny little baby then i would expect this type of behavior, but he is going to be 3 in august!
any advise? i hate cio and dont mind bedsharing, but he is NOT good with bedsharing...and i swear i am just about ready to duct tape the kid into bed and get a set of ear plugs. HELP ME!
okay so this is what happened in night one: he snuggled with dad and had quiet time from 7 until 7:45. then dad got him ready and put him to bed and sat by him a few feet away on the couch. when he got up he put him back into the bed. he screamed the whole time. he was asleep by nine and eric went to sleep in the bedroom.
i got home at 10. by 10:30 he got up and was crying in the kitchen heading for our room. i put him back to bed and sat by him on the couch. he cried for 30 minutes and tried to get out twice. then he finally went to sleep. at 2 am he got up AGAIN. at this point my husband got up and put him in his bed and sat by him on the couch. he screamed, cried and tried to get up over and over again for an hour but finally went to sleep. at 5:45 he got up AGAIN. i put him in his bed and told him it was still time to sleep. he went down pretty easily after 5 minutes of crying.
he was back up at 6:30 and by then it was "time" to wake up and i got up and so did his little brother. long story short we will just keep repeating the process until he understands that he has to sleep in his bed. i just pray it gets better soon :(