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Should I feel bad?

Posted by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:57 AM
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I think that grandparents should spoil their grand kids. So I don't say anything when we're over at the inlaws and they offer dd a cookie. Who cares. It's once a week and we don't have that stuff in our house anyways. It's funny because mil will bake cookies from the freezer (gross) but is so proud, like she spent 3 hrs baking them from scratch. Lately, she's been sending home (or bringing over) 4-8 cookies "for later". We let dd eat one while mil is around, but after that we just toss the rest. We saw mil 3 times this week. That's over a dozen cookies trashed. I was thinking maybe I should say something next time. I know I'll have to do something soon, because my 2.5 yr old is going to start to notice that the extra cookies disappear!

by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 3:57 AM
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peaches_04
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 4:51 AM
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I wouldny throw them away

Save them in a tin and have dh bring them to work for coworkers
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nikzup03
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 6:43 AM
I would put them I'm the compost and not feel guilty about that. Lol. But that does sound like a lot of cookies! I would only be irritated because I like baking cookies (from scratch) and I someone else was always bringing cookies over it I would never get the chance! Lol.
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bloomsr
by Bronze Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 8:32 AM
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Your dd won't miss the cookies you throw away. Out of sight, out of mind. If she does ask, tell dd that they're gone and change the subject/distract her. I wouldn't say anything to your mil. Take the cookies and throw them away when you get home.
KJH78
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 8:37 AM

You can freeze them and then when you have a need for them heat them up! Then if your MIL finds out she didn't get to eat them you can say no we're saving them for later.

JoJoBean8
by Group Mod on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:07 AM
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I would just talk to your mil about the amount of junk you want your dd to have. I told my mom my kids can have treats for special occasions and every once in awhile. They know I'm not denying them but not making it a habit and they respect that.
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jellyphish
by Platinum Member on Feb. 23, 2013 at 10:55 AM
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I'd address it. Better now than down the line when she needs to babysit and thinks its ok to give her half a dozen cookies.
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tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:30 PM
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Maybe tell her that cookies are a grandmas house treat and please dont send them home

Mrs.Salz
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 1:53 PM

I'd say something, and suggest alternatives if she wants to send treats home. We're dealing with something similar with my inlaws whom we see 1-3 times a week and the sugar is really adding up.

littlelambe2
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 2:17 PM

We have done this in the past


Quoting peaches_04:

I wouldny throw them away

Save them in a tin and have dh bring them to work for coworkers



littlelambe2
by on Feb. 23, 2013 at 2:18 PM

I grew up on baked from scratch everything and that's how I bake, too. I can't even stomach the thought of store bought cookies or dough. 


Quoting nikzup03:

I would put them I'm the compost and not feel guilty about that. Lol. But that does sound like a lot of cookies! I would only be irritated because I like baking cookies (from scratch) and I someone else was always bringing cookies over it I would never get the chance! Lol.



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