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it's happened... the almighty parenting advice!

Posted by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 1:09 PM
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I'm sitting at home with dd2 in my bedroom since I had her not even 36 hours ago and am on bed rest. My mom comes to give me lunch and I tell her to just put it on the bed.
She says "Can we put her in the bassinet?"
I say "No, I'll hold her. She doesn't like the bassinet anyway"
P.s. I only have it as a secondary place for her, she's been Co sleeping
Mom says "well you have to put her down, she needs to get used to it or you will be holding her all the time"

My first thought "Why is it your business if I hold my kid?"

What I actually said "You can't spoil a baby until they are older"
*face palm* I wish I could stand up to my mother more.
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tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Apr. 10, 2013 at 6:01 PM

FOr some reason people think holding babies spoils them..I dont get it

JadeTigr7
by Member on Apr. 10, 2013 at 7:12 PM
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Lol if someone said that to me I would have said, "so?"
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Sarah725
by Group Mod - Sarah on Apr. 10, 2013 at 9:56 PM

 well I'm glad you stood up to her then.

gbcmom
by Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 7:44 AM
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I don't think either one of my kids were ever out of my arms until they were about 6 mo.than old. Hold that baby as much as you want. Moms means well but its your turn raise your children.
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maddiesmommy5
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 7:49 AM

 I didn't put dd down until she was mobile and all she wanted to do was explore! It did not create a spoiled or clingy child in anyway.

AlwaysKISA
by Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 7:51 AM
Someone told me not to rock my babies because they will "get to used to it". Lol I told her "let him get used to it, I'll rock him until he is 17!!". Haha. But she NEVER rocked her poor baby.
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AlwaysKISA
by Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 7:52 AM
Nope! What you created was a SECURE child :-).

Quoting maddiesmommy5:

 I didn't put dd down until she was mobile and all she wanted to do was explore! It did not create a spoiled or clingy child in anyway.

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TTC2Long
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 7:53 AM
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Ugh. You know what argument worked with my mom? The fact that we let our babies pee and poop on themselves for YEARS and somehow they DONT grow up continuing to poop their pants. I guess that means developmentally appropriate expectations are ok, right?
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JoJoBean8
by Group Mod on Apr. 11, 2013 at 8:50 AM
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My mom says that to me about everything I do with my children. I just tell her I am sure by the time they go to college they will no longer be nursing, need to be held, or sleep with me. 

LaideBug
by Bronze Member on Apr. 11, 2013 at 9:44 AM
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I only put my babies down if they fuss to get down when they are older. It's one of the best parts about having a baby, getting to hold them.
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