See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
So I really had my heart set on a homebirth for this baby, however the expense of a midwife and required OB backup eliminated that possibility.
I have been seeing an OB who has been supportive of my natural birth plan and wish for overall less intervention. However, the little things have been adding up and I feel like I'm at melting point today.
First, I declined the early u/s as I was clear on my LMP - so her nurse calls and tries to talk me into it and I have to be really firm with her about it. Talked to the dr and she wasn't even phased, just found it unusual as most women demand several u/s starting asap.
Next I try to refuse the HIV screening. I had a needlestick at work a couple years ago and was tested so I didn't feel like I needed it. Her nurse bullies me into it and assures me it's included in the lab costs I've already paid. Ok, sure, why not then? Well, it turns out it was an extra charge and I should have stood my ground.
Next comes the GD test. I see no reason for it, but my dr is worried that because I had such a big baby before (10lb2oz, no GD) I may have another. And if there's a problem during birth (had a vaginal delivery with my first without dystocia) then she'll look bad for not testing me. I tell her no to the glucola and she says ok, there's an alternative with jelly beans she'll have her nurse call me and let me know. The nurse calls and tries to give me instructions but she doesn't even know so I ask how many grams of sugar is in the glucola .... drink 50gm sugar pear juice and have my blood drawn an hour later. It was really inconvenient because I pretty much wasted the whole day having to do that and then go back for my appt. Then I find out last week that she ran a hemoglobin A1C anyways (because my insurance didn't cover it and I got a bill). Well, had I known that I wouldn't have done the sugar thing and wasted my morning.
Next the nurse tries to tell me we're starting cervical checks at 36 weeks. I decline, the nurse gives me guff but the dr is fine. The nurse also tried to have me sign a consent for c-section! I refused, then she wanted me to sign an informational sheet on macrosomia and said that the treatment for babies over 8 pounds is c-section. Had my strep B swab, though. My doc is out of town this week so I didn't have an appt, but wanted to know the results. Had to call the nurse and she tells me I'm positive. I asked when we'd do a recheck and she said, "we don't do that, we just give antibiotics during labor." Dr isn't back in town until Saturday, so I couldn't request to talk to her.
But after reading up on GBS I really don't want to do the IV antibiotics. I want a recheck at my next appt to be certain before I even think about consenting to any treatment. I'm extremely concerned about having an IV at the hospital, going in when my water breaks if I'm not in active labor, the cascade of interventions. After reading up it just doesn't seem like IV antibiotics are the best choice. But then the pedi is going to hassle us after baby is born, I'm sure.
Overall I just feel like I'm being treated like cattle and not like an individual. I don't feel like the dr and her staff are listening to me. If my dr can't keep her own nurses from being pushy, how is she going to advocate for me in the hospital? I'm super upset and really just don't want to have to fight for all of these things, just want my wishes respected.