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I can't stand being in hospitals. They are gross and not restful. Ours demands a mandatory 48 hour stay and with each of the 3 times I've stayed after birth in this hospital I got a maximum of 1/2 hour of sleep the entire 48 hours. It's horrid. Oh and for those saying just sign out AMA, I can but they won't let me sign baby out without pediatrician approval and they conveniently dissapear until the 48 hour mark.

Anyway I'd very much like to just have baby at home this time. However in my state home birth and midwives are not legal. ( well maybe its just home births attended by midwives, not really sure, the research I did wasnt really clear). The closest birth center is too far for my fast labors.

With my last baby I labored at home for nearly the whole thing. It was fun, calm, and even though it was painful I was happy and at ease. When we got to the hospital I was very close to delivering and it was just miserable. I didn't want to be wheeled to the ob wing but I was told I had to, I didn't want to be monitored but they told me I had to lay in the bed for a mandatory 30 minutes of monitoring. The pain got so much worse the second my butt hit the bed. I know it was all mental. I was in absolute agony for the hour that was left in my labor. I feel like much of that pain was caused by the hospital setting and could be avoided if I stay at home.

My question is what do you do if you have your baby at home? I mean after baby is born do you take baby in right away to be checked out or wait until morning or what? I'd basically have to say baby 'came too fast' for me to get to the hospital. Would they admit the baby or just do a quick check and send us home?
by on Aug. 18, 2013 at 10:15 PM
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Sarah725
by Group Mod - Sarah on Aug. 19, 2013 at 9:22 PM

 Wish it were legal to have midwives at home births in every state.

norahsmommy
by Member on Aug. 19, 2013 at 10:03 PM
The goshen lady emailed me back. Her fee is 2300. I think its very reasonable however I don't think we can manage it. I was wondering how to broach the subject of seeing my regular fully covered ob and just keeping the midwife up to date with medical info and test results and then having her attend the birth only for a lesser fee? Does that sound weird and stingy of me?
Mrs.Salz
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 5:16 PM

We didn't take our baby to anyone after our UC. I've read several stories about similar experiences to yours where they brought baby to the hospital and s/he ended up in "observation" in the nursery for hours or days without need.

You could bring baby to a pediatrician's office a few days after birth if you wanted to vs. going to the hospital.

eta just read replies, another option if you want to UC is to hire the midwife to do a newborn exam at your home after the birth.

Mrs.Salz
by on Aug. 20, 2013 at 5:17 PM

You're probably better off telling them it was a planned UC instead of an accident.

Quoting norahsmommy:

Won't they be 'suspicious' of a mom that accidentally gave birth at home and didn't call an ambulance or didn't want to come in right away? I don't want to send up any red flags.

You don't know how appealing it sounds to just get in a warm tub near the end of labor and just relax and focus on birth with no annoying distractions. I've had 4 babies and am very familiar with the process. My ob never does anything anyway except catch. The nurses are the obnoxious touchy ones.


Quoting chucknora:

"Accidentally" have your baby at home.  Then call the Ped you had lined up for him/her.  You can't go anywhere, you just had a baby!  If they can't come to you, see them in a couple (2) days.  If something appears wrong in any way call an ambulance.



jconney80
by Group Mod on Aug. 20, 2013 at 6:14 PM
What part of Indiana are you in?
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norahsmommy
by Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 7:59 PM
North central


Quoting jconney80:

What part of Indiana are you in?

ceckyl
by Bronze Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:19 PM
I would ask about a payment plan, I have seen many women say they have done one with their midwife.


Quoting norahsmommy:

The goshen lady emailed me back. Her fee is 2300. I think its very reasonable however I don't think we can manage it. I was wondering how to broach the subject of seeing my regular fully covered ob and just keeping the midwife up to date with medical info and test results and then having her attend the birth only for a lesser fee? Does that sound weird and stingy of me?

micheledo
by Member on Aug. 20, 2013 at 8:25 PM

Where in Indiana?  I can possibly help depending on where you are.  I have had two homebirths.  One with a CNM and one with a CPM.  

I was hesitant to go with the CPM because I thought they weren't legal.  My midwife told me that basically she is not legally recognized and cannot help in the hospital setting.  However, IF I went to the hospital she goes with me and TELLS them that she is my CPM.  She has never had any problems.  I do know other midwives that will only go in as your doula for fear of prosecution.  I would encourage you to look around.  It is NOT illegal for YOU to have the baby at home or have a midwife (of any kind) in attendance.   Just some midwives are not legally recognized.

Quoting norahsmommy:

Indiana. I looked up stuff and at first I thought just midwives were not legally allowed but CNM's were ok for home birth. Then I read an article about a certified nurse midwife that was arrested because she attended a home birth. Nothing at all went wrong with the birth or any other birth she had attended.


Quoting chucknora:

What state do you live in?




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