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Third Baby...really want natural birth this time

Posted by on Sep. 9, 2013 at 3:44 PM
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Hi All! I'm new here. I am 38 weeks pregnant with my third child. I was induced at 38 weeks with my first because of my weight and OB was scared I or baby would be in distress and have complications. Luckily, labor went well and my daughter was born without any complications. I did get an epidural though. (12 hour labor) I was induced again with my 2nd at 36 weeks because he was in distress. I made it all the way to 8 cm dilation and then the nurse scared me about how much more painful it would get and I got an epidural...which didn't really take effect since my son was born 5 minutes later.(4 hours total labor) Now I am expecting my third and I do NOT want to be induced and I would like to have a drug free delivery. I have no idea what natural birth looks or feels like, when I am actually going into labor or anything of the sort. It sort of feels like I'm a first time mom. I would like to labor at home as long as possible so I won't feel the pressure of nurses or doctors telling me I need this drug or that drug. If I can get there close to delivery, that would be great. Any advice or help??
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Precious333
by Gold Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 3:49 PM
Dont agree to an induction unless there is a medical reason

Stay home as long as you can.

Hire a doula

Stay mobile and listen to your body

Stay hydrated and eat during labor.

LadyBugMom09
by on Sep. 9, 2013 at 3:58 PM

Thank you!

I told my OB i didn't want an induction unless absolutely necessary and she hasn't even brough it up.

Unfortunately, I cannot afford to hire a doula.  My DH will be there and he is in 100% support and says he will be my buffer with nurses if he has to.

How do you know when it's time to go to the hospital??  I was only in labor with my son 4 hours and I didn't really feel that much pain until he dropped and then he was born 5 mins later. 

Lynette
by Bronze Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:00 PM
My 3rd was my first natural birth. My first 2 were epi hospital births, my last 2 were both homebirths. I was terrified at first but I really wanted it. I studied Hypnobabies starting at 7 mo to prepare. Google it. It was amazing!! Intense but not scary. If you decide to have a hospital birth I would recommend having a midwife instead of a OB and hiring a doula.

Have you watched Business of being born or more business of being born?? Check them out. Last I looked they are both on Netflix. They will help you understand how to get your best birth.
polkaspots
by Bronze Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:00 PM
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Since you're nervous, I'd go there as soon as either your contractions start or your water breaks, whichever comes first. You could always walk around the parking lot for a while before you go in.
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Lynette
by Bronze Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:02 PM
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Sometimes you can find a doula in training that will do your birth for free or reduced rate to get her hours for certification.
LadyBugMom09
by on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:09 PM

I actually did watch both of those documentaries.  I loved them.  I applaud any woman who chooses to have a home birth, it's just not for me.  I really feel safer in a hospital and with an OB.  I know.....

I just want to know how to combat that pressure by the nurses of getting an epi or cervadil (sp?), etc.  I don't want any of that stuff and I know if I can get to the hospital already in full labor and dilating, they won't push it so much.

I suppose I just have to learn to listen to my body.  I read a quote the other day from a doula and it was so true, "Women today have no idea what labor really feels like."  It's so true.  This is my third and I feel completely lost!


Quoting Lynette:

My 3rd was my first natural birth. My first 2 were epi hospital births, my last 2 were both homebirths. I was terrified at first but I really wanted it. I studied Hypnobabies starting at 7 mo to prepare. Google it. It was amazing!! Intense but not scary. If you decide to have a hospital birth I would recommend having a midwife instead of a OB and hiring a doula.

Have you watched Business of being born or more business of being born?? Check them out. Last I looked they are both on Netflix. They will help you understand how to get your best birth.



LadyBugMom09
by on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:12 PM
This is a great idea! I will definitely do this. Thank you!
Quoting polkaspots:

Since you're nervous, I'd go there as soon as either your contractions start or your water breaks, whichever comes first. You could always walk around the parking lot for a while before you go in.

polkaspots
by Bronze Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:17 PM
We're going through similar issues with not wanting to labor in the hospital. For some reason everyone wants to shove their fingers up there and I'm not cool with that. I told my husband I wasn't walking into the hospital until I was ready to. His thing is he absolutely refuses to have a home birth so our compromise is we leave and then wait so there's no risk of baby being born in transit. I had my doctors leave me during both of my deliveries because I wasn't pushing when they told me to. My first took about a half hour to come out, but that was two hours after they started telling me to push silly doctors.


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

This is a great idea! I will definitely do this. Thank you!



Quoting polkaspots:

Since you're nervous, I'd go there as soon as either your contractions start or your water breaks, whichever comes first. You could always walk around the parking lot for a while before you go in.



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Precious333
by Gold Member on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:23 PM
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There are student doulas that may do.it for cheap or free (can aks around maybe)

It all depends on how far the hospital is. If you were induced i wouldnt rely on how long yout labors were to go in. Generally you want to be atleast in active labor. Meaning, they are atleast 1 min long, 4 mins between them, they are getting intense and you need to stop between contractions. Transition is usually the point where you say " i cant do this anymore"
A doula would be able to help you know when to go to the hospital.
GL!


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

Thank you!

I told my OB i didn't want an induction unless absolutely necessary and she hasn't even brough it up.

Unfortunately, I cannot afford to hire a doula.  My DH will be there and he is in 100% support and says he will be my buffer with nurses if he has to.

How do you know when it's time to go to the hospital??  I was only in labor with my son 4 hours and I didn't really feel that much pain until he dropped and then he was born 5 mins later. 


LadyBugMom09
by on Sep. 9, 2013 at 4:33 PM
I am not brave enough to do a home birth. I do feel more comfortable in a hospital. The good thing about the hospital I go to is that they don't check your cervix all the time. Last time they only checked me once and that's because I requested it. What they do is scare you into getting the epidural. I don't know why.... Thanks again for the advice. I think it'll be a good way to go.
Quoting polkaspots:

We're going through similar issues with not wanting to labor in the hospital. For some reason everyone wants to shove their fingers up there and I'm not cool with that. I told my husband I wasn't walking into the hospital until I was ready to. His thing is he absolutely refuses to have a home birth so our compromise is we leave and then wait so there's no risk of baby being born in transit. I had my doctors leave me during both of my deliveries because I wasn't pushing when they told me to. My first took about a half hour to come out, but that was two hours after they started telling me to push silly doctors.


Quoting LadyBugMom09:

This is a great idea! I will definitely do this. Thank you!



Quoting polkaspots:

Since you're nervous, I'd go there as soon as either your contractions start or your water breaks, whichever comes first. You could always walk around the parking lot for a while before you go in.




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