Very awkward situation with BM's parenting methods, please help.
Hi ladies, I just joined this group. Im hoping this will be more along the lines of my parenting style.
I have an issue going on right now. I have 2 SK's and 1 DD. My SD is 11 and stays with us during the week going to school here. her mom on weekends. She is going thru a really hormonal/bad PMS on and off phase. She gets a really bad attitude during her period every month for about a week straight.
When she gets disrespectful, we take away things like her cell phone, going to dances, the TV. But her mom is totally different. She'll waste no time in slapping her. Tonight, I got a text from her mom saying she got disresectful with her, then locked her out of her bedroom for several minutes. When her mom came out with the tool box, she unlocked her door. so her mom text me telling me she wasn't allowed to go to the dance this friday or go trick or treating. Which is fine with us. But then she described how she "whooped" her ass, then took a pic of her in some shirt with something written on it (I couldn't make it out) and sent it to us. Her DD was hysterical crying in the pic.
This is not funny. We were willing to ignore the "whooping" because we don't and can't have much say in her parenting methods, but the pic is just too far! I honestly don't think there is much we can do since she is extremely stubborn, she won't listen to reason. At what point could all this be abusive? My DH feels this is abuse, but many people don't. I haven't had much of a chance to speak with him about it yet, but he did say he plans on saving the pic just in case he needs it for documentation.