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How do you know when you are done?

Posted by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 1:40 PM
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I always said I'd have as many as God allowed. Then I got pregnant first time, lost that one and got pregnant with my son and said maybe another one. I really debated on having an only or having another kid but having another won out, lol.

After #2, I said no more-got rid of everything and decided I wanted #3. DH wasn't so convinced but eventually said ok.She will be 2 in March and now I'm starting to wonder if I want another one.

The older two say yes, frequently, lol. DH hasn't said no but he hasn't said yes and honestly neither have I, lol. I had such a great pregnancy and delivery this last time, I want that again but I'm not sure I want to go through the sleepless nights again, lol.

How do you know you are done having kids?

by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 1:40 PM
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jellyphish
by Platinum Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 1:54 PM
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Well, I'm done because I don't like motherhood. Ha. I always wanted two, after a few years, and changing circumstances, I accepted that Biggie would be an only child. I was fine with that for me, but I really wanted her to be a big sister. Well, now she's a big sister and I'm really glad they have each other. But there is no way in hell I'm having a third. I'm done because, in short, motherhood is not my niche.
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by Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 1:58 PM

I'm back and forth with this right now. To be logical, I think finances must be considered. That being said, a third child would be irresponsible of us right now. I also have to think about how it would affect my other two children. They wouldn't be able to say, because they are 2 years and 6.5 months. If money weren't an issue, I'd have more children hands down. I do very much want to experience pregnancy and the newborn period again. 

jellyphish
by Platinum Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 2:09 PM
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Plus I'm a supporter of zero population growth.
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SlapItHigh
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 3:45 PM
For us, it's when God decides or when we feel we have serious reasons to avoid having another pregnancy/child. I'm in the "never say never" camp. We don't have any too serious reasons to be done so we are open to life. I definitely don't feel done. I very much want more children. It's hard for me to ever imagine feeling done but I don't know if I have a choice.
MaryJarrett
by Silver Member on Nov. 1, 2013 at 4:02 PM
I'm ready for the next chapter. As much as I love pregnancy and the baby stage, I'm ready for an older stage. I think it's normal to go back and forth though.
momof3inTN
by on Nov. 1, 2013 at 4:07 PM
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I'll let you know when I reach that point. LOL Just kidding.

We're expecting baby #5 (due in December) now. I've always said I wanted 6 but after this pregnancy... I'm not sure. It's been getting harder. I'm 36 now. By the time we'd be ready for another I'd be 38... 

As of 2 days ago (the last time my husband and I talked about it), we won't actively prevent another pregnancy but we're not going to try and "catch the egg" either. 

Sarah725
by Group Mod - Sarah on Nov. 1, 2013 at 5:54 PM

We were done when DH said no more.  I'm happy I got 3 and my heart is content.

Butterfly_xo
by on Nov. 2, 2013 at 1:34 AM

I think you just know. With my first, he was unplanned and the best surprise we ever got (: I had no complications and I had a vaginal birth. I did, however, experience very bad morning sickness in my first trimester and the third... And sometimes it came in the second. But after my son, I immediately knew I wanted another. We waited til he turned 1, got pregnant, and then had our first miscarriage. I was pregnant for 8 weeks and 5 days and experienced even worse morning sickness. I was extremely hurt and thought I would never get pregnant again. 3 months later we got pregnant once again and I am currently 11 weeks and everything is well with baby..... I'm just suffering from the sickness again. Everyone around me who is pregnant is feeling better except me :( I lost 15 lbs so far and throw up at least 5 times a day. I'm so miserable. Hubby wants 3 or 4 kids but I don't know if I can or if I even want to. And some days I just feel bad for my son because he wants to play and I'm too sick or tired.... I'm not going to put my son through this again. I think we will be good with just 2 kids and if there's a time in the future where we consider it, we will adopt. I'm not putting my body through the demands of pregnancy anymore.

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Precious333
by Gold Member on Nov. 2, 2013 at 1:54 AM
I dont think I will ever know. I do know that i am feeling a bit overwelmed with four at the moment, but I know that if we were to have more we would all love that baby and adjust. I also have a heart for orphans, and if it is possible would like to adopt/foster. I am open to whatever God had for us.
levansbx
by Lee Ann on Nov. 2, 2013 at 7:34 AM
I don't know. I'm pregnant with my second right now. Right now I can imagine myself wanting anther in a couple of years, but I'm not sure dh will be on board with that. So I guess there's a good chance we'll be done after this one...but we'll see. ;)
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