My co-sleeping is causing marital issues...
My DS is almost 7 months old. For almost a month now, I have come to the conclusion that we are co-sleepers. I kinda fought the idea at first because I am typically one to want my space, and was worried about setting bad habits. He was waking only about once or twice at night. Something happened around the 4th month, and he started waking up around 3 -4 times at night again. Then he had a cold. Then teething.
Waking so much again left me exhausted, and decided to just let him sleep with me so I could nurse him to sleep, and I could fall asleep too. We just kinda fell into the habit, and now I enjoy it. We both sleep better (he still wakes up quite a bit, but it seems much less burdensome since I don't really even remember it happening much), and I love the bonding. I work full time, so I feel like I get to make up for missed time with him, even if we are sleeping.
However, my husband and I see things differently. He told me from the get go that this would happen when I brought him into bed with me. He is supportive an encouraging of pretty much any parenting choices I make. He has been sleeping on the couch and the floor, so I can't say I blame him. Niether one of us are comfortable with the baby inbetween us in the bed (he can be a deep sleeper) so I suggested getting one of the guards you put under a fitted sheet so I would sleep in the middle and he isn't comfortable with that either. He wants to move back to the bed; of course, and the only reason this started was because DS had a bad cold and was not doing so good at night. The sleeping in seperate rooms thing was suppose to be much more temporary than what it turned into.
Now that my insight has change on the co-sleeping situation, I don't want to put him back into the crib. Not only is it easier to sleep (I work until 11pm, so I can't exactly go to be earlier to make up hours), I enjoy it. It just feels natural. If a baby wants to be close to mom, why fight it? That and I've become so use to it, I don't know if I could stay awake nursing him at night. After actually researching it, I realize it is not bad like mainstream ideas play it up to be and has other pros.
So there is my issue. I don't know how to compromise on the situation and I feel stuck. Things have gotten quite tense around here and I feel bad for my husband. I feel like I have to pick between the two of them. Anyone else go through this? What did you do to fix it?