Always listen to your instincts!
I had been having contractions for many nights but they would stop during the day. But I woke up early Sunday morning, 2am, with strong contractions in my back and lower abdomen. They got progressively stronger and with a shorter time been them.
We called the doula at 4:30. She was great! We were still planning on our UC. We had everything out and ready. I was walking, sitting, squatting... just did what ever felt natural. My friend came at 10 to help with the other children. But at 10:30am the baby's heartbeat dropped and I felt G-d telling me we needed to go to the hospital. I had called my medwife at 5:30 but never got a call back. So we just went in, I felt something was wrong.
I could barely walk into the hospital. My doula and husband were practically carrying me because I hurt so badly by this point. We got checked in, the medwife had never gotten my message from the answering service (she's going to report that to the office manager). By the time we got checked in and to the delivery room it was 11:30am.
When we got to the delivery room the medwife checked me. 8 cm, 100% effaced, 0 station and a bulging bag of water. Just an hour later and I was ready to push. My bag of water popped and there was meconium.
Pushing was the worst feeling ever! My hospital prohibits waterbirth. I've had 4 other children, all waterbirth. Open air birth took so much longer and hurt so much more. No wonder women opt for drugs! I have never pushed more than 20 minutes. This time I was pushing for an hour.
When Ilan's head was born the cord was tight around his neck and so short the medwife could not unwrap it from his neck. She, as gently as possible (which isn't very gentle), held the cord back and I pushed his body through the loop.
The cord was very short and she could barely put him on my belly. I did not get the delayed cord clamping that I wanted. :-(
He pinked up quickly and I was able to nurse him within 15 minutes.
I had no cuts or years but the pain down there is worse than it was for all 4 of my others put together. I don't know if it's all because of the air birth or because the medwife had to kind of "hold me open" to birth through the cord... I just know it hurts a lot.
My husband is glad we went to the hospital, he says he got scared when he saw the cord and how tight it was and that he did not feel prepared to deal with that situation at home.
I didn't get the UC I wanted but baby Ilan and I are both healthy and that is what matters most.