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anxiety over deliver...why now?

Posted by on Jan. 25, 2014 at 9:27 PM
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this is baby number 3 for me and my pregnancy has been "textbook" perfect, just like the last 2...im 4 weeks from my EDD and suddenly find myself quite anxious and almost scared of delivery. My last two were somewhat "natural"....as in I had CFM, and an IV but no pitocin, induction, c section or epidural\pain meds. this time i am planning on delivering without CFM, an IV etc...basically 100 percent natural except in a hospital because homebirth is not an option here...my dr and the nurses at th hospital are VERY supportive of my plan. why the anxiety i have no idea my mind keeps going to all the what ifs.....what if something goes wrong anf i need a c section (im terrified of having a c section) what if because im not doing CFM we dont realize the baby is in distress and something bad happens to her...lack of oxygen so she has brain damage...what if she is born with DS or some other impairment...why this anxiety? why now? these things never once occured to me when i was pregnant with my other 2 kids.....sorry...no real point to the post i guess...just needed to get it out.
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angelchewning
by on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:22 PM

 breathe mama. you are actively planning to exclude things that you had with previous births...which makes this birth essentially like a first! you are fine! i wish you the best of luck and a happy and healthy lo.

caligirl7613
by Member on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:36 PM
:) i didnt consider it like that but it is true...up until the last week or so i have been perfectly "ok" with my plan for delivery but now....i am anxious over it. Heck if i could i would have a homebirth but midwives are not allowed to practice here and im not comfortable going unassisted. i think part of the reason for my anxiety also is i am so much more educated this time around than the last 2 babies. the ONLY reason there was so little intervention with them is because they came much faster than the hospital expected. they literally didnt have time to do pitocin, epidurals etc. now that i am so educated on the benefit of delivering as intervention free as possible and also the tricks hospitals and drs pull to try and use intervention i no longer have that blind faith that drs, nurses or hospitals have your best interests or your childs at heart.

Quoting angelchewning:

 breathe mama. you are actively planning to exclude things that you had with previous births...which makes this birth essentially like a first! you are fine! i wish you the best of luck and a happy and healthy lo.

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Lynette
by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:45 PM
Consider doing Hypnobabies. Takes all the fear away. You start practicing it at 7mo. Google it.

The fear is so normal! I have had it with all 5 of my pregnancies.
caligirl7613
by Member on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:52 PM
im only 4 weeks away though :( glad to know im not the only one with anxiety though...even if it isnt a first birth

Quoting Lynette: Consider doing Hypnobabies. Takes all the fear away. You start practicing it at 7mo. Google it.



The fear is so normal! I have had it with all 5 of my pregnancies.
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Lynette
by Bronze Member on Jan. 25, 2014 at 11:56 PM
I had twinges of fear within days of that positive test.

Quoting caligirl7613: im only 4 weeks away though :( glad to know im not the only one with anxiety though...even if it isnt a first birth

Quoting Lynette: Consider doing Hypnobabies. Takes all the fear away. You start practicing it at 7mo. Google it.

The fear is so normal! I have had it with all 5 of my pregnancies.
GoodyBrook
by Silver Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 1:25 AM

I think fear is a by-product of self-education.  

With my first I was blissfully unaware of what could go wrong--and then it did.  The second time around I read everything and learned far more than was necessary...and kinda freaked myself out in the process.

Trust yourself and your body.  And know that you are strong enough to handle anything that life throws at you, in labor or after.

caligirl7613
by Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 3:00 AM
i think that is kinda what happened. because i have become so much more educated i know of all these bad things that can happen..and even though rare...what if still plays into my head... sometimes i feel silly for worrying so much

Quoting GoodyBrook:

I think fear is a by-product of self-education.  

With my first I was blissfully unaware of what could go wrong--and then it did.  The second time around I read everything and learned far more than was necessary...and kinda freaked myself out in the process.

Trust yourself and your body.  And know that you are strong enough to handle anything that life throws at you, in labor or after.

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tabi_cat1023
by Group Mod - Tabitha on Jan. 26, 2014 at 11:21 PM

HUGS momma, you are in a hospital so if baby is born with something like DS there will be specialists there to handle it...that is something you can not prevent even with monitoring.

That being said I have known many moms that KNEW when baby was in distress with NO monitors, they just KNEW...I believe you will too.  If theres an issue you will KNOW

caligirl7613
by Member on Jan. 26, 2014 at 11:45 PM
thank you :) i dont really anticipate my baby having some kind of disability and everything at the 20 week scan looked perfect but it just this thought thats been going through my head....

Quoting tabi_cat1023:

HUGS momma, you are in a hospital so if baby is born with something like DS there will be specialists there to handle it...that is something you can not prevent even with monitoring.

That being said I have known many moms that KNEW when baby was in distress with NO monitors, they just KNEW...I believe you will too.  If theres an issue you will KNOW

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SlapItHigh
by on Jan. 27, 2014 at 11:12 AM
Hugs!
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