Overnights and cosleeping & breastfeeding
My ex wants to have a discussion about arranging for overnights with our 19-month old. A brief history: I abruptly left our relationship, taking the baby, due to his emotional abuse. Since then our son has lived with me. Since his birth, he has slept up against my body and nursed throughout the night. In his way he never fully wakes--he only stirs and searches for my breast--and he takes in 10-12 oz of milk overnight.
My ex is a great playmate to our son but has never shampooed his hair, cut his nails, brushed his teeth, etc. The once or twice per week that he spends his afternoon with the baby, the only way he is able to nap him is to put him in the baby carrier and walk around with him. He has never put him down for the night.
Does anyone have any links to studies, or resources they can suggest for my discussion with my ex? My goal Is to persuade him to wait until our baby is older before we do overnights, so that the baby can breastfeed, and because he Is too young to shuttled back and forth between homes.