Mom is not invited to birth! *UPDATE*
ETA: She's very close with her mom, they see each other several times/week. Her mom is a nurse (not OB RN, though) and seems to think she's in the know... I guess I am asking about how to word it/deal with it so as to not be hurtful or offensive. Her mom makes comments (at last birth) like "you are not strong enough- you NEED the drugs" ! It seems easy to simply call her after the delivery, but there would be hard feelings that way, too. uhhhgh. I hope it's not this way when my daughters are grown! LOL!
The baby was born today a few weeks early. Her mom was there and I will find out how everything turned out... should be interesting, anyway. Thanks again for the thoughtful suggestions!