Found perfect solution for my toddler during my homebirth! Yay!
Initially I thought of hiring a Doula with the understanding she may end up babysitting DS during the birth but it takes DS so long to warm up to people and we'd only see the doula a couple of times beforehand.
Then my LLL Leader mentioned that she'd used a Mother's Helper before.
That sounded perfect. I am actually thinking of it more as a 'Big Sister' than a 'Mother's Helper' since there wouldn't really be any chores involved.
I had somebody post an ad for me on the local homeschooling group and I already have a teenage girl interested in the job.
We are planning to meet here in the next couple of weeks but she sounds really promising oldest of 5, was raised AP herself, homeschooled so no worries about missing school on 'Birth Day'.
I am thinking of having her come once a week to play with DS for about 10 weeks before the birth so he really, really gets to know her and have fun with her and can develop a good relationship. And then she will be there for him during the birth, be able to take him out to play, etc.
I am so excited. I think this solution will be perfect for us!