Carpe Diem Baby
I'm also an adoptee whos mother didn't want to be found.My mom placed a contact veto thru the state and court. She would not even provide medical update to me - with her identity protected.5 years later, I went and found/contacted all her children. It took another year for my mom to even consider talking to me. But- it did happen. We have been in regular contact now for 6 years. Carole's article was very helpful to me as I went thru rejection. It helped me to understand more of what my mom might have been going thru, and just knowing that it was possible that she didnt just hate me.
I learned that she didn't just walk away into the sunset for a happily ever after, either. She had been uhh- 'slammed' by adoption too..
I'm not in the reunited zone , and I hope you don't mind me snooping on your group.The reason I read it, is because of a friend who is an adoptee.We met on another adoption forum - while she was in college, just turning 18.She is now 21, and is getting to know her natural grandparents. But still has not met her natural mom - and would like to. The last time we talked she commented about her mother "...she's afraid of her own daughter?!"I've been wanting to talk to her about that, but this article says what I think I was wanting to - and more.The article was incredible, and yes articulate of much of the pain.Thank you - all of you for posting and sharing.-joesgirl
Quoting JoesGirl:I'm not in the reunited zone , and I hope you don't mind me snooping on your group.
I'm not in the reunited zone , and I hope you don't mind me snooping on your group.
Quoting hnsgardens:Does this make me a bad person?
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