LOVE...how is it shown or given

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  • lovebutterfl715
  on Aug. 7, 2009 at 8:45 PM
• The little things I guess, like 2 seconds ago I was scratching my shoulders and he walked by and did it for me. Thats how I know, or when he looks at me, with so much passion just beaming from his gorgeous brown eyes. The way he kisses me, the way he lets me sleep in when I'm not at work, or how he gets up and tends to the kids. The fact that he adopted my 3 kids from my previous marriage, without even second guessing it. I could go on and on.

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  • adamsmama724
  on Oct. 4, 2009 at 10:54 AM

• Agreed! It's not the grand gestures of extravagant flower arrangements arriving at work or the fancy restaurants, or the expensive gifts...those are nice but in the end, it's always the little things. 

  Mine is a chef and has a passion for the craft. It comes out in his food, so I know that when it's orgasmic, he loves me.  There have been times he made my toes curl!
  

  It's the way he looks at me, the way he instinctively puts his arm around me whenever I crawl into bed. The way he will grab a cigarette for both of us whenever he goes outside, even when I'm busy and don't follow him. His little jealous quirks about my job (I work with a lot of men). The way he treats my son like one of his own.

  I could go on, but I don't want to appear like I'm bragging LOL

  I'm a working, sarcastic, loud, opinionated, don't take any guff, give when it hurts, take when we need it, Disney-lovin', takin' care of my guy and loving it, kissing my kids in front of their friends, loving, sincere, love to laugh, paddlin' that butt if he dares run out into the street, fast food eatin', overweight, lovin' my man with every inch of my soul, mother of 2 amazing children who mean the universe to me. If I offend, deal with it. If I wanted to be coddled, I'd have never grown up. Tell me straight because that's how you're gonna get it from me!

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  • MamaMagan
  on Oct. 5, 2009 at 9:55 AM

• Sorry to hear about your marriage, I am sure everyone has felt the same way, I certainly have. I think you need to open the lines of communication, since he probely won't start it maybe you can try first and communicate how important it is to talk and go out together.

  Dallas has so many issues, God Love Him LOL, he is a tyical male! But when I am sick, he steps up and tells me to lay down. Takes care of me and the kids, plus tries to take care of the daily stresses so I can recover. Thats when I fall in love with him all over again becaues I know when times get rough he will be there for me and I'm not alone!!!

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  • shoelaces
  on Oct. 16, 2009 at 4:06 PM

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  Hi there, first of all married for 17 yrs is an accomplishment. I guess what you are experiencing rght now are kinda love bugs as we call it. As a couple and so much inlove...you wont be needing any advice but rather some renewed tips perhaps to rekindle an old fire.

  I am maried for 15 yrs now plus the 5 yrs engagement period basically almost 20 yrs of being together.

  1)part of our life since and still,,is our "love"names...we never call each others name unless we are in public places.

  2) we learn the art of listening to one another, when one is angry the other one is calm.

  3) we never sleep mad at each other.

  4)we always put the needs of one another before our very own.

  last but not the least,,,makelove as much as you can. Touch is the best tool for intimacy and let go of your unnecessary expectation...for whatever its worth..strong relationship is built to last long.

  GUDLUCK!

  NING shoelaces

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  • doodysmom08
  on Oct. 16, 2009 at 5:41 PM

• my husband in not home right now he is in basics for the army but what he does for my is he writes me letters telling me how much he loves me and i write him back doing the same when he is home we tell each other how much we love them because you don't know when the last time you will Beadle to said it so when even we are on the phone or going to get something from the store we say i love you good luck and i pray it gets better for y'all god bless

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  • ciagaz
  on Oct. 16, 2009 at 5:46 PM

• Ive only been married for about 6 yrs. But i always think of it as action.... Also swallowing my pride and getting over things. He is soo good to me exspecially when I treat him the way I want him to treat me! Learing what intimacy really ment for us helped a lot. I had a really hard time letting him in during the middle cause the beginning was sooooooooo hard.  

  

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  • Tn-hser
  on Oct. 31, 2009 at 9:36 AM

• Have you read the Five Love Languages?  It talks about each of us giving and recieving love in different ways.  If for example touch is your love language(how you feel loved or receive) then you will give love that same way but if his love language is time spent or acts of service then he is not receiving it as love and vice versa.  A lot of libraries have the book if you are interested in reading up on it.

  

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  • ChesterGirl
  on Nov. 2, 2009 at 11:34 AM

• My hubby tells me every day that he loves me and even when he's not saying it , he dose things that makes me know it . Sometimes at night I fall asleep b4 he dose and he lays and just looks at me or runs his hand down my cheek and strokes myhair . He normally wakes me up , but I dont tell him so . He holds me every chance he gets he brings me flowers or sends me a text during the day just to tell me he miss's me . We are very affectionate toward one another and always have been . Everything I do , I do for him . When I cook and clean and wash clothes , I feel that Im takeing care of him and thats how I show my love aside from other things of course . When he comes home , I always have kiss waiting for him bc I miss him so much when he's gone . Hes the one person I want to be with ALL THE TIME and he feels the same . We do everything together. You cant let life get in the way of your relationship . Everything that we come up against , we go at it together . Theres not one person on this earth that I depend on more than my husband . As corny as it sounds , he really is my everything and I KNOW Im his . Every marriage goes through rough times , we have only been married 8 years and we have , Lord knows , but when you make it out the other side of hard times together , your relationship will be better than ever . All great loves sometimes fall arpart , but they ALWAYS come back together , stronger than they ever were .

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  • FancyKnots
  on Nov. 5, 2009 at 1:58 AM

• I've been married for 14 years but have lived with my husband for 17 years.  It is hard when you feel unloved.  I personally just speak up.  I tell him how I am feeling and he usually will react to that.  I think men sometimes get in a funk and do not even realize that they are being distant.  I have to remind my husband all the time.  He is usually unaware that he has been neglecting me.  I think you probably know he loves you, you just want him to show it.  You have to show it too though.  Remember it's the little things that count so don't disregard small efforts.  That's how some men show love.  If you are expecting him to climb up the balcony and recite you a sonnet you will probably be waiting a while. 
  

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  • DuluthMomma
  on Nov. 20, 2009 at 8:00 PM

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  Quoting Tn-hser:
  
  

  Have you read the Five Love Languages?  It talks about each of us giving and recieving love in different ways.  If for example touch is your love language(how you feel loved or receive) then you will give love that same way but if his love language is time spent or acts of service then he is not receiving it as love and vice versa.  A lot of libraries have the book if you are interested in reading up on it.

  This was my advice too.  I read the mini book ( it has the key points that are detailed in the full version and your husband may be more inclined to thumb through it :)  It shows you how you want to RECEIVE love and how you want to GIVE love. Many people don't realize that these may be different ways.
  

  For example.  I show love by giving gifts and helping, naturally my husband's response is to want to give me a gift back, but while I may like the gift, it is not filling my love meter. My love meter is primarily filled by receiving love through touching (hugs, a hand rubbing my leg etc)   My husband still has intimacy issues that he may never get over, but at least now we can put some science behind it when I tell him "I don't FEEL loved"

  If you havent already, you should look for topics on love languages, when you find your hubby's love language (and Yours) once or twice a week purposely  try to do little things that will work for each other's language(just remember that it's a guide, not exact) I hope things get better with you and your hubby, I know it's hard. 
  

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