I am a SAHM of 4. I have been at home now for the last 4 years. I have a 19-year-old daughter who has moved out, a blind step-son who is in public school and doing well (for the most part .. that 's a whole other story), a Pre-School age daughter (3 gonna be 4 on Oct. 13) and a 2-1/2-year-old daughter.
For the most part, right now I am feeling like a total failure as a mother.
My almost 4 year old wants to go to school and is on the waiting list for HeadStart. I wanted to get her ready for this by working with her to learn her letters and numbers, but she seems to not listen or want to learn.
I seem to be having a hard time potty training my 2-1/2-year-old. She does everything that she is suppossed to, sits on the potty, wipes herself.. then gets up an goes potty on the floor. It's so frustrating. I potty trained 2 other children without a problem.. but I seem not to be able to potty train my youngest.
It makes me just want to curl up and cry. Does anyone else feel this way? I live in a small town, and I don't know anyone here. My husband is supportive and tells me that it will happen in time, but I feel like it will never happen.
I'm sorry to drop this here but I don't really have anyone to talk to, my mother passed away and my sister is no help either (her daughter was taken away from her because of drugs), I just feel so depressed right now and it's hard to bring myself back up.
My daughter turned 2 in May... thank god she's skinny and still fits in 4 diapers beause I doubt she'll be potty trained by 3. My family gives me so much CRAP for it but I don't know what to do! I've tried! I am so frustrated with myself about it. It gets me down so I can't fake it and say don't let it get you so down... just know you're not the only one out there with a difficult girl to potty!
you are not a failure!! no one ever said rasing babies was an easy task! It is just life we have trials that we must go through to find who were really are... Hey what doesnt kill ya only makes you stronger! Take time, take some breaths and think positive everything will be just fine. Start righting down some positive affrimations to your self, before you know the baby will be potty trained and your preschooler will be in school and learning new things to show you everyday. life will get smoother. Being a SAHM is a lot harder than people think it is, sometimes it is a mental game, sometimes you feel worthless because you don't feel like your kids behave, people give you looks.. etc. In the long run you will see, it will pay off and your will be GREAT! Good luck and I hope you start feeling better soon!
Thanks for the encouragement ladies. I know having babies is not easy. I have a grown daughter and was a SAHM with her for the first 2-1/2 years. Then went to work because we needed the money. My first husband passed away and this is my second marriage. We had the two little ones and now I am a SAHM again... with the economy these days and the lack of jobs.. I can't go back to work because it will actually cost me.
I know I'm not a failure.. I just was so depressed yesterday that I had to write it down and get it out. I find it funny that all the women out there that don't have kids and are working think it's a vacation to be a SAHM.. but we actually work longer and harder than they do. I mean our job isn't a 9-5 job.. this is 24/7. Some people just don't understand...
Thanks for listening and responding ladies.. it makes a world of difference.
As for the pting it will get better! One must be patient and sometimes the kids just do it when they want to! I was frustrated when trying to pt my daughter, and low n behold she stays with my aunt, and one week she's pted!! amazing right?!!
As for the the pre-school age daughter, sometimes kids learn better around other kids!! Maybe if you tried teaching her and her sister together it would help!! Kids, especially young ones imo have very short attention spans. We taught my duaghter at home and now she's in preschool and learning everyday!! I just think it's all about patience and repeating yourself A LOT!!
As for those who say being a SAHM is a vacation, How WRONG THEY ARE!! it's no vac, and YES, we work harder than those who do the 9-5!! This is my opinion!!
Best of luck to you!!
I'm also trying to teach my 4 yr old at home. She really wasn't ready to sit and learn until a few months ago. She will be 5 in Jan. Every kid is different and unfortunatly, we are on their time schedule when they are ready for things.
I have a 2 1/2 yr old also and potty training has been pretty eventful also. It's just a waiting game and it does try ur patience.
U are so not a failure! Ur a wonderful mother for caring about these issues and trying to work thru them. Good luck!
Kids are very different as well as independent at times. I have 2 kids; both PTying at the moment. 1 doing better than the other, but the other is more of a copycatter. My son took off on the PT bit, it took him a long time to figure it out but once he did he wanted to do it.
As for the learning goes; the preschooler will start learning on their pace. My daughter refused to try to learn until about 9 months ago and then it came very slowly, but she is know enrolled in pre-k and she has taken off. She actually wants to learn and is trying to learn how to write now, she had already took some interest in counting. What I did even though she had no interest was count things knowing that she was listening in the background, and behold eventually she started counting with me. Eventually I started doing that with the alphabet too, she is still learning that. Good Luck.
You are NOT a failure!!! My daughter would not have anything to do with potty training until she was 4, which there is nothing wrong with, as long as shes's ready by preschool time. As for being ready to learn letters, it will come in time. Maybe when she's in a group setting, she will want to learn. Hang in there, mama, it will be ok! ;)
I FEAL FOR U..I HAVE 4 AND A HALF YEAR OLD TWINS THAT WILL NOT TRY TO USE THE POTTY...I TRYED TO DO THE HOLE HOME SCHOOLING THIS SUMMER.DID NOT WORK. THANK GOD THAY ARE IN PRK. EVERY DAY THAY COME HOME WTH NASTY PANTS..IDK WHAT TO DO...I SAY LEAVE THE SCHOOLING TO THE TEACHERS AND MOTHER TO ME..IT WILL ALL COME I TIME.
MOM TO AMAMNDA 8 YEARS OLD KATIE,DAVIE 4 YEARS OLD AND DOKOTA 1 YEAS OLD ( DOG) .I LIKE TO TAKE PICKS AND COOK.
FORGIVE MY SPELLING..I HAVE LD..BUT GOD LOVES ME..!!!
Failure would definitely NOT be the word I'd use. If that was the case, for various other reasons I'd be a failure!
I've found the easiest thing (althoug also very hard) with potty training is to let it go. As hard as it may seem, don't even worry about it. Especially if it's becoming frustrating. Trust me, your child will NOT start high school in diapers. I know that's an exaggeration, but I use that to say that it DOES happen. When I just let go and let Abrianna do her own thing, eventually she wanted to get it...and that's where I stepped in to help.
Your husband is right. It WILL happen!
Good luck, Mama! You're doing great.
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on Sep. 15, 2009 at 1:32 PM