My husband and I have been married for almost two years, but things are just so different now than they were before we were married. Before we got married we just seemed so much closer and had more intimacy and just so in love. Now we seem to be living like roommates. There is no intimacy between us (I think that it is more of me not wanting it than him) and we seem more like buddies than a married couple. Oftentimes I feel like I am living a life that I didn't want to live. We are pretty different people and I just don't know if this is how marriage is supposed to go. Maybe I've watched too many movies, but I thought there would be more of a loving feeling in a marriage. So many of my friends have made comments such as "I've married the love of my life and am living the life I've always dreamed of" and "My husband is more than I could ever imagined he would be" "My life was nothing until I got married and now I am living a fairy tale"...the list just goes on. It seems that everyone I know is living these fantasy romance marriages but me.
Has anyone else ever felt this way - like their marriage just doesn't feel quite like you expected, enough so that you just don't feel compelled to be intimate with your spouse? He is a good man and takes care of me, so what the heck is wrong with me? It just doesn't feel like the life I expected. I keep trying to figure out what turns me off about getting close and intimate with him and I just can't place it. Yes, he's told some white lies about stupid things, but nothing major. Yes, he does some immature things, but nothing major. Yes, he's picky about who we go out with (friends to hang with on weekends), but again nothing major. We argue quite a bit and are from two totally different worlds in terms of family....There's been some stress in dealing with his ex and getting situations straightened out because they have a child together. Does ANY of the above possibly have anything to do with it this off feeling I have? Will it ever turn arond? I just want to be happy in my marriage and in my life. I expected the first two years to be more honeymoonish, but it's been the complete opposite (of course we've had some major things happen during these two years).
I guess that's it for now. Sorry I went on for so long.