i had my total done on nov 6 2007.i never been same.i still have pain .my mood swing gone bad.i have chill all time .i'm always cold.my sex had die.i feel it did nothing for me.i wish i hadn't had hysterctomy done.i just don't feel same.now i wish could have another baby on baby kick .also its it s a diffenent feel hitting the big.it take longer and it feel differnet does any one feel like this.
help me.i know baby thing is just has go away. any body feel this way thanks
I know exactly what you mean. My mood swings are terrible and I feel so bad about the people that I hurt in the process. As far as the baby thing goes I am also on the same page. I want another baby so bad I wish that I could have at least one more. But I didnt opt for a hysterectomy, I had mine done as an emergency after giving birth to my baby last year. It really sucks because I had no intentions of it being my last.
What does your doctor say? Are you on any hormone replacement therapy? You don't have to feel this way physically!! With the right dosages of HRT, you can feel normal again. Please don't suffer needlessly anymore. Talk to your gynecologist. If he or she doesn't help you, then find a doctor who will :)
The emotional stuff will just take time. I know it's hard wanting another child so badly. Talking with someone helps.
What were the reasons for your hysterectomy?
i was on esdiosl but, still feel right .i went a different gyn because i move and because i may have blood clot in janurary she didn't want give me anything she i could live it. so she no help.i had it don't because i had done beause i had pcos and emoisis can't right.i had lot pain after tubal.i feel no doctor listen it most uncomfortale feeling.i feel never be right
Quoting Mommy-Nette19:
I know exactly what you mean. My mood swings are terrible and I feel so bad about the people that I hurt in the process. As far as the baby thing goes I am also on the same page. I want another baby so bad I wish that I could have at least one more. But I didnt opt for a hysterectomy, I had mine done as an emergency after giving birth to my baby last year. It really sucks because I had no intentions of it being my last.
i sorry that you had emercy hysterctomy .i feel for you.i know when you had no chice it made it harder.i felt that way after my tubal right after my done what did i just do.no more baby.i cry for day and month then the nightmare start.i had more pain then ever had ever thing got worst.i felt no choice.i want pain go away just stop.but it hads't.so felt did nothing sucks
I can sympathize. I had my total done July 15, 2009 and I regretted it the day after and every day after that. I know in my head that it was the best thing to do. The constant pain, bleeding, clotting, inability to move, play with my children, unable to have sex with my husband, not being able to walk more than 5 feet without feeling like my uterus was in flames...Those reasons and more are why I had the hyster done, but I still regret it. I don't feel like a whole woman anymore. A huge piece of me is missing. It doesn't help that I honestly felt pressured to have it done. No one said "hey you have to do this", but no one said "are you sure, have you tried ALL the options?" I had support up the whazoo....My husband was super supportive and learned all he could about what my surgery entailed and what I most likely would go through after etc etc but the emotional aspect no one else can know, unless they've gone through it. I've had a couple of people tell me they know how I feel and I just look at them like they are nuts. They have no clue how I (or anyone else who has had this done feels). Sure their tubes are tied but they can still carry a child if they want to. Yes, they'll need medical intervention, but they'll be able to do it. Me, I can't. The only thing I have left is my ovaries. The only way for me to have another child would be for me to go through serious surgery for egg recovery and then those would have to be implanted into someone else, at a cost that I can't see us ever being able to afford. I regret not being able to have that option now though.
Mood swings, I've always had those--I deal with depression daily and borderline bi-polar. So I can't say if my mood swings are because of that or because of the surgery. Most likely mine are not due to the surgery. I'm sorry I can't give you any insight or help in that area.
I'm also different from you in the aspect that sexually, it's easier for me to get to that I wanna have sex stage, and my "o's" are more intense now. Maybe because I'm not in pain anymore...I don't know. Hopefully your sex drive will increase gradually, and the rest of your side effects will start to recede as well. {{hugs}}
Thank you, I hate that any of us have to go through this. Its bad enough that we had to have surgery and something taken that we can never get back, but now we have to go through emothional problems too?! Its not fair. 
Quoting megirl2020:
Quoting Mommy-Nette19:
I know exactly what you mean. My mood swings are terrible and I feel so bad about the people that I hurt in the process. As far as the baby thing goes I am also on the same page. I want another baby so bad I wish that I could have at least one more. But I didnt opt for a hysterectomy, I had mine done as an emergency after giving birth to my baby last year. It really sucks because I had no intentions of it being my last.
i sorry that you had emercy hysterctomy .i feel for you.i know when you had no chice it made it harder.i felt that way after my tubal right after my done what did i just do.no more baby.i cry for day and month then the nightmare start.i had more pain then ever had ever thing got worst.i felt no choice.i want pain go away just stop.but it hads't.so felt did nothing sucks
I would ask if by "total" do you mean your ovaries were taken out too? Total hysterectomy doesnt neccessarily mean ovary removal too is why I ask.
If you did have them out, HRT will help as someone above mentioned. And if you didn't, they may be failing. Simple hormone blood tests will show just whats going on with your hormones if you still have ovaries.
I had only remaining ovary takin out so was thrown into surgical menopause and I take the Climara Patch .1mg and it helps me a lot.
I know how hard the emotional aspect can be, it's bad enough having a hysterectomy at a young age, but losing your ovaries and being thrown into surgical menopause makes it even worse. Sometimes it bothers me to hear women say how hard they ae having it without being able to have more kids, yet they kept their ovaries and do not have the menopause aspect of it.
I feel for all of us, but I stress that positive thinking is what we all need. If your constantly negative, you'll feel like crap inside and out. My hysterecomty sucked emotionally, but you have to be strong and pull yourself up and out of the deep, dark, hole. Go out and get fresh air, take a mutli-vitamin, eat right, go for walks, let the experience turn you into a better person. Think of it as a new lease on life, what would of happened if you didnt have a hysterectomy? Could you of died? I sure could of, but I didnt, thanks to my doctor and my decision, I am able to be here to raise my son. And I for one intend to do just that, live my life..and raise a wonderful son.
I know Im going to be viewed as the "happy cheerful bitch" who doesnt understand, but thats so not the case, Im simply trying to give a wake up call..
As for your doctors, you need to take charge, find yet another new one, and go in prepared. Take a list of your symptoms, research this stuff...go in fully armed for battle! Learn the proper terms, symptoms, etc..
Firstly everyone depends on if you have ovaries or not, secondly how old are you? If your younger like the rest of us and you had your ovaries removed you NEED those hormones. Our bodies cannot function properly without them. HRT at our ages is a good thing, not a bad thing. it doesnt affect us like it does older women, because we still need those hormones.
Try mentioning that you'd like to try one of the newer patches, the dosage may take a few tries to get it right but you'll feel sooo much better. You do not want hrt in a pill form because we'll be on it for a long long time and the pills form will damage your liver.
Mention names to the doctor, Ive had great luck with the climara patch, but see if you can get the doctor to write non-generic form only, so you're insurance will cover it. I really despise the generic. It didnt stick right and I just didnt feel as good as I do with the name brand.
But on top of the hormones, remember we all need to get some sunshine, vitamin D is really important and we get it from the sun, and vitamin supplements, as well as a multi-vitamin. Try drinking soy milk and green tea too. Eat plenty of fresh fruits and veggies, limit the red meat and go for fish and chicken when you can..Eat whole grain breads, not white. Aim for good fats such as canola and olive oil, eat nuts if your not allergic. Skip the margarine. Go for walks, find a hobby.
Please do not let yourself go on in agony. It really doesnt have to be this way, but first things first you need to take charge, and NOT be the victim, be a survivor!!
*big hugs*
I think there are a few things that should be cleared up here. It doesn't matter what your age....if you have difficulty with the lack of hormones, HRT will help. It doesn't help a younger woman anymore than an older one.
Also.....patch or oral....it's the same. It's really just personal preference. I started on the patch and just didn't like it. They always came off sooner than they were supposed to and they were just uncomfortable to me. I take 1mg of estrodiol per day. I did stop for a 6 month period a while back, just to see what would happen. The hot flashes nearly drove me crazy. I started taking it again in May and have been perfectly fine since. My liver is normal and there is nothing to support saying oral estrogen replacement will harm it! The only real difference between the patch and oral is the price. My patches cost around $20/month. My oral is $3/month.
Women of all ages (I am 49) need the hormones! Doctors put post-menopausal women on HRT all the time. Just because we get older, doesn't mean we have to feel bad, AND the lack of hormones does not affect younger women more than older women!
I completely agree that you need to take control of your own healthcare with your doctor. That is essential, if you want results.
To the last responder- There IS a difference in taking the patch or an oral pill.
When you take the oral pill, it's like hitting your liver with a hammer every 24 hours.
The result is marked liver proteins that can cause high blood pressure among many other serious risks.
When you take estrodiol in a transdermal form, such as the patch instead of an oral pill, there's less risk/side effect involved because skin does not metablolize estrodiol like the liver does. It only takes 5% of the estrodiol thats in a single pill for the patch to do the same without as much of a consequence. So more or less, it's less of a shock to your system and doesnt upheave the bodies natural processes as much.
Okay, to put it simply, using a patch(transdermal) Bypasses the "bolus" and is less likely to cause liver damage over prolonged use, and other problems associated with all of that estradiol being metabolized directly by the liver.
A lot of Doctors are not aware of concerns with HRT in full, some Doctors know more than others. But this here is a fact. You can find articles and research papers on the web about this.
The thing is,the oral pill form hrt may be okay for someone who is having menopause problems later in life, but for us younger women that are going to be on HRT for quite possible 20 years or more, well..Thats simply a lot for anyone to expect from their liver.
To the poster-
Yes please please please go see someone. Since you had everything taken out you NEED hormones. They will help keep you young and vibrant and protect your organs.
If you have questions feel free to send me a private message, I know quite a bit about such things, and have a wonderful Doctor who specializes in hormone therapy and gynecology oncology as well.
Best Wishes
Best Wishes, Shauna
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