Quick background: After years of avoidance and months of soul searching and my own personal counseling I was 99% sure shortly after the 2012 holidays that a genuinely happy marriage (or for either of us to be happy individuals) we needed a divorce. My husband was devastated and having none of it. I haven't been to work in ten years, so I knew just leaving wasn't an immediate option (but I didn't want to disrespect him by making some secret exit strategy). We also have a special needs child, and I knew to coparent properly we would have to have a healthy relationship. I just couldn't see that being a marriage.So I agreed to go marriage counseling out of a moral obligation more than anything, but tried to have an open mind. I still don't know what's going to happen in the end, but it's definitely been worth it. We still have a long road ahead of us, but we both agreed recently that our relationship is better than it's ever been (as far as communication, respect, genuine friendship, teamwork).
I'm still working on going back to school and other things, so I have the means and tools to be independent if I need to, but I'm sort of glad I wasn't able to physically leave the home or I think it would be over and done by now.
In counseling now, but I don't think my husband hears me or the counselor. I think he feels that since it is a woman,she doesn't get "a man being a man" and having to control things. Anyways, in MC since May. Don't know how things are going to end....
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