I am an army wife and have 3 beautiful children. My youngest, who was my csection, is only 10 months old. My husband was just home on r&r (right around the time I was ovulating). We took MANY precautions, but there was a few times that we went out and got a little...well, drunk. We didn't always use them. Before he left, I was already starting to feel pregnant. I knew when I was pregnant with ALL my kids, and this time I am hoping I am wrong. Is this too soon to try to vbac? If I am, I want to at least try. I have so many emotions in me right now. I don't even know how I am supposed to feel. Love is not a problem, another baby will be welcomed no matter what, but I am terrified that I will be forced to have another csection. My 10 month old wasn't a forced csection, his heartrate dropped to 35bpm. We HAD to get him out fast. I just don't want that to happen again. Is there really any way to prevent that from happening?
Another concern is that we already have 3 children. Can we really afford another one? We are struggling to make ends meet now with the 3 we have with us (2 are mine from a previous relationship) and child support from the 1 he has from a previous relationship. Things are tight and with him being in the military and being moved around alot, it is hard for me to find steady work because of my work history.
My body doesn't usually lie to me about this. I knew before my missed period that I was pregnant every other time. Would this be any different? I have already gotten a couple of tests and have taken 1, even though I have between 1-2 weeks before my monthly is due, just to make myself feel better. I am still nauseous all the time, like how I feel when I am pregnant, not sick feeling nauseous. I am still craving milk all the time, which I only do when I am pregnant. I crave 4 big glasses of milk a day when I am pregnant. I usually only have milk in my cereal. I don't really otherwise like it all that much. My breasts are enlarged...I don't want to say swollen, because they are just feeling heavier, and they are not tender or anything, at least not yet.
Anyways, I guess I just needed to vent and get some moral support since my husband isn't here anymore to help me through it. I probably won't even get to hear from him for a couple of weeks.
If anyone has been in a similar situation or knows about vbac "rules" please give me advice. I could really use it right now. Thanks.
Generally the Military is very Pro VBAC. I have had 4 VBACs in military hospitals.
You will be fine. I have 4 kids too!
well, you definately know the financial situation we are in. lol. I am just a huge worry-wart. Its just so soon since my last baby. he is only 10 months old.
Quoting lasombrs:
I had asked the same question, I am only 6 monhs pp, and the response I got from everyone was that after 3 months you are healed enough. Congrats!!!!
well i don't know for sure yet. I took a test yesterday and it said no. I just took a test tonight and it looks as if there is a very faint barely there line. You really have to look to even see it. I am going back to the store tommorrow to get another test. I am not due to start for a couple of days, but I still feel pregnant. I have a "wierd feeling" in my stomach. I don't know how to explain it except it is the way I felt with my others. I am super nervous to find out.
I'm sure you will be fine either way. At least you have all the baby stuff already.
Quoting lindsayWA:
I'm sure you will be fine either way. At least you have all the baby stuff already.
lol. I sold the carseat and got a convertible one for my son, and if I have a girl, I'm screwed. lol. If it comes out positive, I really hope its a girl. it has been almost 8 years since I had a baby girl and my husband and I really want a girl.
ah, mine are girl boy, boy girl! Good Luck on getting a girl! :)
UPDATE: I haven't been able to get back on here in the past few days, I have been extremely busy with the kids this weekend. I never got around to taking another test. I didn't need it. Saturday, Aunt Flo came for her monthly visit. As relieved as I am that we are not pregnant, I can't help but be a little dissapointed. I wasn't hoping I was pregnant, but in the back of my mind I that we could just get it out of the way... I mean, why wait, really. We will probably be in the same financial situation in a few years, so why would it matter if it happened now, or then. I do not think I actually "felt" pregnant, like I said earlier, but nerves got the best of me. The old saying that babies are made on r&r got me nervous, and we weren't 100% protected the whole time he was here. It only takes 1. I couldn't help but to have the possibility in the back of my mind. After this, I will definately be more careful when my husband comes back. I will definately plan for anything now, and not freak out next time. Thank you all for reading this, and posting your comments. You all really helped me calm down about this and I really appreciate the advice.
Pregnant With #2!!!!!
- momof3inapril09
on Feb. 19, 2010 at 1:25 AM