Opinions needed (might piog)

[apmomof7plus]

First you need some background for this to all make sense ...

Ok, my ex and I are divorced and have not been together in nearly 4 years. I have always been right down the street from him - I stayed in the "family home" while he shacked up with his ****. I was unable to move due to money, no other help other than him, etc. I attended school almost the whole time we were separated. I talked about moving several times and several places he was okay with (even though they were a good distance from him). But I never could for whatever reason or another. But I was definitely going to be moving when I graduated school to be closer to whatever job I got ... well marriage and graduation have come around the same time.

Well I finally moved on with my life with Terry which of course required one of us to move ... well I really needed to get out of the county I was in for quite a few reasons and I absolutely hated the house we were in ... so instaed we got a place in the next county over (not anywhere as far away as the other places he was okay with). The ex has been alright with the move so far ... can't stand that he has to drive 20 miles but that's def better than nearly 80 miles... one way.

Weeelllll, I moved in the middle of soccer season because the house we wanted came available sooner than expected and we had to grab it up. So I made the committment to drive back and forth each weekend for soccer practice and games. The ex coached so he had to be on the fields at a certain time, so I drove all the way to the fields just in time for their practices to begin. They stayed with him each Friday night, and on Saturdays I drove down to watch the games and take them home. Rarely did he keep them all weekend during this time unless there was something going on with soccer.

So now you have all the background associated with the following issue ....

The ex wants to sign the children up for basketball in his town. He doesn't think that they should do sports up here (sports that have games on Saturdays) because he would have to drive up here on Friday, pick them up, bring them back for games on Saturday, back to his house after the games, and then back here to drop them off on Sundays. He says it would be easier for me to bring them there for their games on my weekends than it would be for him to bring them here. Nevermind that practices are during the week for most sports (except the league he wants to sign them up with in which practice is 30 minutes before the games).

So the question is ... do you think the children should be signed up for sports here where they live or there where he is?