Surrogates Looking for IPs

[Aileara]

Please post here.

[bethybaby]

 What is an IP?

[Aileara]

Hi, sorry I'm late replying - it's been hectic here with fire storms, etc.

IP stands for intended parents.  If you want to be a surrogate, traditional or gestational, you need an IM (intended mother) and IF (intended father), or two IMs and/or two IFs for same-sex couples.  You'd be carrying the baby/babies for these IPs.  Sorry if this sounds confusing - the mind's not working too well yet.

[amc323]

i would like to become a surrogate and have applied at 2 places, just looking to see if anyone in san diego is looking for a surrogate.  thanks AMC

[Aileara]

Sorry, I don't know of anyone personally who's looking for a surrogate.  The agencies would be the best thing.  Most IPs (especially ones doing this for the first time) go through an agency.  Even though it costs a lot more than going the independent route, it's worth it when you don't know what you're doing.  If I hear of anyone looking for a surrogate I'll send you a private message.  Are you looking to be a GS or TS (gestational or traditional)?  That makes a big difference in some IPs' choices.

[Aileara]

Check the IPs looking for Surrogates thread here - there's someone who appears to be looking for a surrogate.  Not in San Diego, but that doesn't really matter.  There's lots of traveling with some surrogacies.

[amc323]

im new to cafe moms so where would i look.  i want to be a gestational surrogate.  i finsihed my paper work for one agency but just thought of putting the word out here. thanks for getting back to me.

[Aileara]

Try doing a "surrogacy" search and I'm sure a group (or more than one) will come up that can help you.  Other than agencies, I'm not sure how indy surrogates get connected with IPs.  Good luck.

[clmom]

looking for IP's that live in Texas. I am new to all of this but have been think ing of doing it for about 2 years now. I would like to find a good agency in Houston or close to it. thanks,Candace

[Aileara]

I'm not sure how your State views surrogacy.  I know some are very surrogacy friendly (California is the biggest one I know of).  Start there, be sure it's legal where you live (I believe it is, but not sure).  Then I'd suggest checking out a few agencies, or go to one of the online surrogacy boards if you want to go the indy route - lots of people looking for surrogates on those, lots of information.  Good luck.

[AshleyLSwain]

I have applied to at least a dozen agencies and am searching indy to become a GS. I haev been actively searching for at least 4 months now. I live in Ohio and have four children of my own. I have come close twice to signing a contract but there was always something we didn't agree on so we just stopped the process. I am really starting to get worn in the whole process and I am wondering if I am ever going to find my IP's....