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PIOG & as journal: Subconscious spellwork? Karma? HER subconscious?

Posted by on Nov. 13, 2009 at 2:35 AM
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Sorry to post this in several places, but I was hoping for someone to be able to help me out on what might have caused this stuff to happen. If bisexuality bothers you, you might want to skip this. (Not TMI or anything like that.)

A little back story before I dive into current events...

My first love was my best friend in high school. I'm bisexual, have been as long as I can remember, with many more female crushes and the like than guy crushes. I fell for her 5 years ago, and I still have some feelings for her to this day. I only told her about it earlier this year, after she broke up with her boyfriend of the past couple of years. She took it surprisingly well. Shortly after that, she started texting me and asking me how I knew I was bi, and after I told her, she informed me that she'd been having dreams about women and liked them. I offered to let her experiment with me, if she felt she needed to, to figure out if she really did enjoy being with women, as well as guys. She never took me up on that offer, but never turned me down, either. Shortly thereafter, she got together with a new guy, but said that she had feelings for me, but was uncertain about them. On St.Patrick's Day, they were both here and I blurted out some stuff, we kissed, and I almost killed myself (alcohol poisoning, accidental).

A couple of days after that, she came by again and we went out to talk about the kiss. We'd both been drinking that night, so it wasn't a huge deal, but it needed to be addressed. While we were out, she ended up kissing me two  more times, after the last I told her I was done until she decided that she wanted more. Months passed and I tried to finally bury my feelings for her because her boyfriend had told me he was planning to propose as soon as he had enough saved to buy the ring he wanted for her. In September, she IMed me and told me they were engaged. It hit me sooo hard. She was wanting me to go with her, knowing how I felt still, to pick out lingerie to wear for HIM on a romantic weekend getaway! I refused, kind of went off on her about her being so insensitive, then drank until I forgot I was in pain, while talking to another close friend.

I'm also a practicing witch, and it's been pointed out to me numerous times throughout my life that I may be a natural witch. Blah blah blah. Anyway, that night, I was thinking about her and how I wish she knew what it was like for me.


OK, fastforward to the present....


Today, she and her fiance came by and she told me that she had something to tell me. I thought she was going to tell me she was pregnant or something. I ended up dragging her (not literally!) out with me for a cigarette run while the guys chatted her at the house. Finally, she told me that for the past two months, she's been having a dream EVERY NIGHT about having sex with me, and hasn't been hating it. Even when she's just had sex with her fiance and he's lying beside her, she has the dream...every night. I told her it was probably her subconsious trying to tell her that she needs to figure out once and for all if she's bi, and deal with it, or something like that. I also told her about that night with me drinking. I jokingly added that "Karma is a bitch, sometimes."

I don't know what's actually causing it, but I don't think she has feelings for me. I think it's either her subconsious (though I don't see how that would cause her to have the same dream EVERY NIGHT for 2 months straight, beginning right after that night), or MY subconscious. I'm kind of afraid that in my inebriated state, I might have accidently caused this to happen to her and I feel so guilty, but at the same time, I have to laugh because it's like she's having issues that make her feel what I was going through or something. I don't take any pleasure from her having the dreams, I feel bad for her, but I have to wonder what is causing them...

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