another question....

[Jleu22]

So i am really into the idea of using the secret through out my life. But i feel like i can't do it with out my husband....who is getting annoyed with me telling him he can change his mood and will feel better, telling him to think positivley and so on. he is almost always complaining...and i try not to let it but it brings me down...any suggestions? has any one else delt with this? he's a great husband and friend and a wonderful father and provider and is usually open minded...i just don't get it.

[nikeetablu]

in my experience i found out that men don't like having what they don't know too much about crammed constantly down their throats, especially when we tell them it will CHANGE them for the better.  its like they only hear the word "change" ~ and you know how men feel about being changed.  they have to "change" being themselves when they're on a date, change when they got married, changed when they're now a father... you know the story...and its not because our guys are terrible...oh no way, i have a great guy,... 
i would tell my husband to think more positive, and he tells me he can't help how he feels and what don't i just allow him to feel it. then we get into a spat... which is something we shouldn't do.  i can relate to what you're saying.  and it does bring me down too.   
                                       

[fiannafae]

I would just suggest focusing on positive feelings towards your hubby. Just like the book/movie, the woman who's hubby was negative asked to be around him only when they could get along and that's exactly what happened. Have you asked him to read the book? Maybe that would help.

[momtohanna]

I have been at this Law of Attraction thing for a long time. It's still around my husband that I have troubles sometimes.  :)

First of all you can not create in anyone elses reality. Only your husband can change when and if he is ready and willing. But wait! It's OK, because you can change. You can raise your vibration. As you go about doing and feeling the way you want to feel, it opens up a space for him to show up more the way you are wanting him to be.

I know that is hard to understand. Here's an example, and I will keep it short as it is really a long story. When I was pregnant I had "expectations" of my husbands behavior. I expected him to do things and say things (kind of like in the movies I guess). He was not saying and doing any of those things, in fact he was talking like he was just going to drop me off at the hospital to have the baby. (which was not acceptable at all to me!) but knowing that I can not change him I went  about setting up support for myself so I could have the birth I wanted whether he was on board or not.

I found myself a doula, signed up for natural childbirth classes etc. He agreed to go to classes with me, and it seemed the less pressure I put on him to be what I wanted him to be the more he actually started being that. He still didn't do a lot of the little things I wanted, but he turned out to be a powerful childbirhth coach and pretty much the main reason I didn't end up with a C section.

So go about doing whatever it takes for YOU to be in the place YOU want to be in. It doesn't matter if he acts like he's coming or not, you will find when you focus on your things will change with him. It just works that way.

Have fun!

Jackie Lee

Live LOA in Real Life