Friendships

[alwaysmom98]

 How important a role do your friends play in your life? Do you have mostly online friends or mostly in person relatioships? How has having kids affected your friendships? How do you get "friend" time? Do you always see your friends with your SO, or do you each go out on your own?

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[mama-and-beena]

prior to my kids my friends were important...and after my kids they became even  more important, the helped ground me...and reminded me that i had a life before becoming a parent, although i lost some friendships once i became a parent, certain friends stuck around and are very active in my life and in my kids lives...i do maintain several friendships online  because it's just easier...but the in person friends love kids, have kids, or are big kids themselves.  my s.o. and i talked to each other about the importance of maintaing our individual friendships and couple friendships...so i can go out with mine and she can go out with hers, but we also have friends that we go out with together.  it's very nice to have that.

[ealexh]

Friends are VERY important to me.  My closest friends are considered family and I feel as if we're blood related.  If you have true friends, I believe they can be as close to you as "real" family.

I have three best friends.  One lives out of state, but we chat online regularly and her and her family just came up for a visit... and stayed with us for a whole week.  What a treat!  Every time I see her, I just can't believe how much I miss her.  Another lives in the same state, but two hours away.  Our schedules are SO busy so we don't see each other as often as we'd like.  We get together at least four times per year and talk on the phone every week.  My 3rd best friend and I see each other once per year and talk on the phone about twice per month.  I would die for all three of them.  I've known them all for an average of 17 years.

Then, Brenda and I have PLENTY of acquaintance-friends, as I like to call them.  We've known them for a couple of years.  Although I love them, I don't consider them family like my others.  Most of them are friends through our children. 

[alwaysmom98]

I lost contact with most of my friends when I had my first child. I was the first in my group to have a baby, and we were all living a pretty wild life, having a kid around that was not an option. My closest girlfriends are my family, we can go months without talking, but I know they are there. Now that everyone is having babies, i have reunited with some old friends, they want mommy adivce and now understand the drama of kids!

I also have some "mommy" friends, but, besides you guys online, aren't really friends. I wouldn't call any of them just to chat or if I needed help.

I have three sisters, who are also my friends! I have been lucky in having such close relationships with each of them. I talk or im or email with each of them almost daily.

I think I need to have just me and friends time! We always go out together, and I miss just hanging with my girls!

Thanks for your replys!